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* Science of Happiness – must see overview

Dr. Dan Gilbert was one of the first researchers into happiness. There have been many more admirable peeps looking into what makes us happy, yet he still captures the fundamental issue so clearly. Its all in our brain!

Val T Boyko
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31 responses to “* Science of Happiness – must see overview”

  1. Louise Gallagher Avatar
    Louise Gallagher

    How fascinating. I just rewatched this video a couple of weeks ago and was telling someone about it. We definitely are in sync!

    Hugs — and yes, I really like his work too.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Sometimes going back to the beginning makes sense. We see things with new eyes … hopeful kindsight as well as hindsight!

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  2. Jet Eliot Avatar
    Jet Eliot

    Very interesting and inspirational, Val. 😀

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thanks so much Jet!

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  3. Jill Weatherholt Avatar
    Jill Weatherholt

    He’s nailed it. Thanks for sharing, Val!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thanks Jill! Its good to reinforce what we may know, but still catches us unaware 😉

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  4. Kate Crimmins Avatar
    Kate Crimmins

    First, I have the attention span of a flea and never watch long videos! However, I am always intrigued by the elusiveness of happiness. This was fabulous and well worth the time. I learned something from it. You can really relate this easily to many aspects of your life.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Kate! So glad you appreciated it … and even more, that you can apply it to our life. 🙂

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  5. Hariod Brawn Avatar
    Hariod Brawn

    Saved to watch later tonight Val as I’m a bit snowed under here. H ❤

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  6. Eliza Waters Avatar
    Eliza Waters

    Pretty cool research. Boundaries make us happier – amazing!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Boundaries and fewer choices … who would expect that? It really is an eye opener.

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      1. Eliza Waters Avatar
        Eliza Waters

        I know they advocate it in raising small children, but this is the first I’ve heard of it in adults. Perhaps that explains much of today’s worldly woes.

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        1. Val Boyko Avatar
          Val Boyko

          Interesting ….. Thanks Eliza!

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  7. Paul Handover Avatar
    Paul Handover

    How very, very interesting. Must share that over on my place.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Glad you enjoyed it Paul! It is interesting and makes me think of societies where there are limitations and people are happy with their lot … compared with a land full of choices and possibilities where people are so unhappy!
      Please go ahead and share.

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  8. Carol Ferenc Avatar
    Carol Ferenc

    Very interesting. He’s a great speaker and makes it so simple.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I agree Carol. He gets right to the issue and makes it easy to understand. 🙂

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  9. nrhatch Avatar
    nrhatch

    Good post, Val. What we attain in life is largely irrelevant to this quest for happiness. Instead, how we view the world determines our happiness.

    “If we have a positive mental attitude, then even when surrounded by hostility, we shall not lack inner peace. If our mental attitude is more negative, influenced by fear, suspicion, helplessness, or self-loathing, then even when surrounded by our best friends, in a nice atmosphere and comfortable surroundings, we shall not be happy.” ~ The Dalai Lama

    With patience and perseverance, we learn to coax the statue from the stone.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thanks Nancy – for your insight and the Dalai lama quote. 😎
      What is so interesting with Gilbert’s research is the conclusion that having choices leads to mental confusion and anxiety … which takes us away from finding happiness in the here and now.
      A monk’s life is more geared towards happiness!

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      1. Val Boyko Avatar
        Val Boyko

        … or a retiree’s perhaps 🙂

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        1. nrhatch Avatar
          nrhatch

          From my perspective, we all have the same number of choices to make during each moment of each waking hour:

          What to think about NOW . . . and NOW . . . and NOW . . . and NOW . . . and

          If we think grateful, kind, compassionate thoughts, we are happier than when we think about all the reasons why we are disgruntled with the current state of affairs.

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          1. Val Boyko Avatar
            Val Boyko

            Love!

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  10. suzicate Avatar
    suzicate

    This was fascinating…happiness is a state of mind! I do think it’s a choice. I know people (I’m even related to some) who chase happiness through material items, and as soon as it’s acquired they are on another quest….but they lack inner peace which promotes joy.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      The external pull is so strong Suzi. Inner awareness is the beginning of everything we could wish for … yet others are in a different place on their path.

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  11. Healing Grief Avatar
    Healing Grief

    So true. I love the Sir Thomas Browne quote. Happiness is in my mind, body and spirit always. Happy Friday Val 🙂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Karen – great quote! Xo

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  12. Tiny Avatar
    Tiny

    I saw this just before I fell asleep last night. A great talk with lots of wisdom. I slept happily 🙂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Whew … that’s a relief 🙂 It must have fed your inner being while you slept!

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  13. David Kanigan Avatar
    David Kanigan

    Sorry. Laughing. “It’s in the brain.” No doubt about THAT. Now, Val, I need a quick fix.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      😉

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    […] Happiness – I have the attention span of a flea (a very small flea). I rarely click on videos that are longer than 3 to 4 minutes. Definitely won’t click unless it’s music. I’m not much on “growth” videos (unless someone has one that will make me taller!). However a new blogger I follow, Find Your Middle Ground, posted a TED video of Dr. Dan Gilbert about the science of happiness. I am fascinated by the topic because happiness is so fleeting. What makes you happy one day will be different on another day. I loved the talk. I made a direct connection to experiences in my life. If you have 20 minutes listen here. […]

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