holiday stress

This is the perfect time to pause (YES! PAUSE!) and reflect on the level of stress you are experiencing right now. So take a few moments to lighten up and let some of that load go!

holiday stress
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Want more stress in your life? These are my lucky 13 tips guaranteed to make you even more stressed out and miserable over the holidays!

  1. Strive for perfection in everything you do. Have faith that the smallest imperfection or oversight results in complete and utter failure.
  2. Always compare yourself to others. Look for where you don’t measure up and remind yourself daily.
  3. Surround yourself with negative people. Aggressive people who constantly criticize you, are a great way to focus on your failings and keep you miserable.
  4. Aim to spend at least 20% more than your income. A must for the Holiday season!
  5. Remember your failures. Keep a failures log. Frequently go over your many occasions of incompetence.
  6. Breathe in “I feel grumpy”
    Breathe out “I feel tense”
    Breathe in “I am stupid”
    Breathe out “I fail at everything I do”
  7. Win at all costs, especially when you are in the wrong. Remember there is never justification for compromise. Bully and ridicule the other person in defeat until they admit fault.
  8. Shop at peak times. Always wait to the day before the holiday to buy food. In supermarkets hold your ground in the “less than 10 items” line! (My favorite!)stressful holiday shopping
  9. With your partner, make up a list of each other’s bad habits. Pin a weekly wall chart up to see who can add up the most irritating things about the other person. Go over the list on anniversaries and birthdays.
  10. Avoid vacations. If you do go away, do your duty and visit relatives. Always make sure the office can reach you quickly. Take your computer, cell and your admin’s home telephone number – in case you don’t hear from her or there’s no wifi.
  11. Always over promise and under deliver. Say yes to everything. Commit yourself to impossible time lines. Of course, remember to do it all by yourself.
  12. Suffer in silence. Gain the maximum stress from a problem by trying to deal with it entirely on your own and always keep your worries to yourself.
  13. Dismiss other people’s offers of help. Show the world how independent you are. This is especially worthwhile when you are unwell. Always show up to work with a virus! The more unwell you feel, the more stoic you must be. Success is in complete physical and mental breakdown… and spreading the joy with colleagues.

To find happiness, review the above and do the opposite.

About Val Boyko

Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 25 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and inspiration within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we all explore finding harmony and peace, in the highs and lows of life 💛

24 comments on “Stressed For the Holidays?

  1. pat walton

    Lol. Loved this. I do at least 10 of them

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    • I don’t believe it 🥰 Time to step back and chill… Love you are in class right now and setting aside time to find balance and reconnect 💕🙏🏼💐


  2. No stress here! Although I am going to be baking a number of pies for the neighborhood. Still, I will wait until I’m in the mental space to do it. Then it will be fun.! 😍

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    • Good for you Bela ❣️
      As an outsider, incomer, foreigner and Brit … I have never had that gentle presumption and expectation to bake for others. Such a relief … but perhaps also a lessening in connection at this time of year.
      I’m sitting back and appreciating zero expectations right now.
      I only wish that others find their own way and to be okay and less stressed.

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  3. Excellent points. Happy Holidays Val! 🔔🎉🎅🎁🎄

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  4. This is awesome, Val. 😄 Happy holidays to you and yours!

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  5. Haha, words of wisdom dear lady. May you be beyond them all 😀❤️🙏🏽

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  6. From my perspective, stress is associated with trying to do the “right” thing.

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    • Ahh yes. Then we step back and see that what we thought is right, is a rule imposed by others… and then realise that the right thing can be different for oursleves and for others. The right thing always comes from love. Stop trying and embrace what feels right for your being. 💐💖🙏🏼


  7. Haha, good one, Val! Loved it! 😀

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    • Thanks Eliza. Doesn’t it feel good to relate and yet be on the other side …. And realise we may not be all the time? Happy forgiving and celebratory holidays to you 💕💐🎉

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  8. Hilarious. Uhm. From perhaps a distance of sorts….. ( And not felt as so by Someone Stressed on the Couch. ahem) happy and peaceful days to you now and always!!!!!! This really did make me laugh. ! xoxoxoxo

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  9. I really wondered where you were going with this. Great fun

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  10. All is calm.
    All is bright.

    Happy Solstice, Val.

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