* Be Present, Not Perfect

This is a re-blog of one of my first posts on being present. It is the foundation from which everything else has evolved in my life, and on this blog.
Over the years I have let go of trying to be perfect and embraced just the way I am – imperfect and real. May you enjoy this refresher as I did today 💛

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Inner Reflection

Many of us strive to be perfect. We think that if we achieve perfection, then all will be well. We’ll find the confidence and certainty that we yearn for. When we are perfect, others will love us more and we will be happy. We’re so used to driving and pushing forward in our lives.

I see it in some yoga classes where the students are wanting to attain the perfect pose…. whether their body is capable of it or not. Ouch! It can end with physical harm as well as disillusionment.
I see it with some coaching clients who want to find the perfect job, where they have the best supportive boss, do only the things they love to do and there is no conflict. It ends with constantly seeking something better, and ongoing disappointment.

Striving for perfection can be a real burden on our mind, body and spirit.

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24 responses to “* Be Present, Not Perfect”

  1. A fine post, Val, genuinely wise

    Much love

    john

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    1. Thank you so much John! xo

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  2. Perfection is exhausting. Great post, Val!

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    1. Thanks Jill. So true – it’s takes a lot of energy to try to be something we are inherently not 🙃

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  3. Foundational and ever fresh!

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    1. Indeed! Thanks Dennis 💛

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  4. I am often reminded of the expression “perfect is the enemy of good”

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    1. I like that one Dan! Mary’s “peace in imperfection” is also a great reminder for us all to let go and embrace the good. 💛

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    1. Used to be for me too David! Let’s those shoulders relax and let it go for a bit ☺️

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  5. The irony is when you realize that ‘perfection’ exists living in the present moment. Love your new background photo, Val! Tulip fields?

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    1. I love your comment Eliza ❤️ The flowers are lentils, grown in Umbria, Italy. We went there a couple of years ago, but missed the show!

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      1. Lentils? My, they are beautiful!

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  6. So true! Often I’m so busy trying to get everything “just right” that I don’t bother to simply enjoy “what is.” Thanks!

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    1. It’s such a small re-set that makes all the difference. Thanks for sharing Ann 💛

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  7. Definitely no such thing as a perfect person, according to my big bro. Always find his words very useful and consoling. Your post made me think of him uttering them to me years and years ago!

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    1. Thank you Jean for this lovely share❣

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      1. My pleasure, Val. (Big Bro is very close to perfect in my eyes!)

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  8. This is lovely, Val. I love the line about the quieter inner voice that wants to be okay just the way you are. I’m so glad you re-posted this one. By the way, your new background photo is stunning!

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    1. Glad you enjoyed the re-post Carol.
      The background photo is of the lentil fields in Italy. Who knew lentils had such beautiful colored flowers! We visited there out of season when it was green yet still beautiful!

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      1. Just gorgeous! That place should be on my must see list.

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  9. This is interesting because I never strove for perfection – not even as a child. Back then, I did not know why and years later, I gave words and thoughts to my behaviour. Attaining perfection meant – the journey ends – and for me, the fun is in the journey. I admit that like all brief statements – many can find potholes in what I said.
    Thank you, Val, for re-posting.
    All good wishes,
    Eric

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    1. Thank you Eric for sharing here, and your kind words. Potholes make life interesting 💛

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