This inspiration is from Mooji and is taken from ‘Vaster Than Sky Greater Than Space’.
“Some time ago I saw a picture depicting a parable from the Bhagavad Gita. It showed two birds in a tree, and one of them was building a nest. This one is flying off collecting things, arranging the twigs – its active, doing many things.
Above this bird, on another branch, is a second bird. It looks identical to the first bird, and it’s not building anything. It is just observing. It’s not building a self-image out of its perceiving, and its not deeply interested in any aspect of what it sees. Its perceiving is happening quite spontaneously without effort or judgment. There’s a silence there, that feeling of Being without thought. Just looking.
This is a beautiful portrait of who we are.
These two birds are connected. The first bird represents our dynamic being, the self that is engaged in the world, in future and post, in growing. It is the aspect that is living life with the sense of my family, my children, my work and so on.
The second bird represents that conscious witnessing within us. It is the ability to observe life taking place and activities unfolding, but it is not actually doing anything…
Initially the first bird who is building the nest, may not be aware of the second bird. As soon as it is able to be quiet, it becomes aware of the second bird, which is actually itself at a deeper inner level.
When the first bird’s mind is synchronized with the second bird, the activities become much more gracious. There is a sense of unity, a oneness…
The second bird represents the change of perspective from the mode of the person to the state of presence…
If you can slow down just a bit, your witnessing will become very serene, and you will notice that the activities of life are just happening by themselves.”
Every one of us is like these two birds. Yet, when we identify with being the doer, then we lose touch with the wholeness of ourselves and the Truth of who we are.
Slow down and take time to be an observer of whatever comes up in your thoughts, feelings and sensations. Embrace your second bird.
When you come from a state of presence everyday life transforms itself.
Enjoy this re-post about the power of empathy, especially in difficult relationships.
One of our fundamental needs as human beings is to be heard and to be accepted as we are. Take a moment to recall a time where you were going through a hard time and someone empathized with you. How did it feel? Pretty good I expect…
When someone empathizes with us we don’t feel judged; we no longer feel alone; we feel understood; we become calmer; we usually feel better and are more able to handle a difficult situation.
Empathy is a powerful tool for connecting to another person in an open loving way. It feels good to us, yet how often do we intentionally empathize with someone else … especially when someone is angry or frustrated?
Marshall Rosenberg writes in his book “Non Violent Communication; a Language of Life“ how it can be especially difficult to empathize with those who appear to possess more power, status or resources and those who are closest to us.
One of my favorite take aways is:
“Empathize, rather than put your “but” in the face of an angry person.”
When we want to help we tend to jump in with a “but” and a “fix” for the other person. Yet empathy is more powerful and empowering.
He writes: “I continue to be amazed by the healing power of empathy. Time and again I have witnessed people transcending psychological pain when they have contact with someone who hears them with empathy.”
Why not increase your ability to empathize with this exercise:
Really tune in to what they might be feeling and reflect back what you are sensing they are going through.
Here are some examples of reflecting feelings statements:
It sounds like you are really frustrated about this
I can see that this is tough for you
I can’t imagine all that you are going through. It must be so hard
I’m sensing that this is scary for you
I hear that you are concerned
It sounds like this is a real challenge for you
It sounds so simple, yet can be hard to do in that moment. So instead of putting your “but” and point of view in the other person’s face, empathize with their situation and reflect what they might be feeling.
Give the gift of feeling heard and understood.
“The only difference between
A Teacher and a Student is that
The Student believes that
There is a difference whereas
The Teacher knows there is none.”
~ Wu Hsin
The best teachers in all aspects of life are perpetual students, open to learning and letting go of what they have been told is the truth.
Only the ego creates a hierarchy to uphold and defend.
It’s so freeing to step into an other realm where our conditioning doesn’t get in the way of our evolution … and we can play and learn together.
As we move into the light, enjoy chilling out with one of my favorite artists, Valdi Sabev.
For everyone spending time with the Fokkers this year. This is a re-post and reminder just in time for Christmas and New Years.
“If you think you are truly enlightened, go and spend a week with your parents.”
~ Ram Dass
I laughed out loud when I read this today! Visiting back home definitely brings me back down to earth. I then googled to see what others said about this and found this wisdom from Eckhart Tolle.
“It is a good test for your degree of Presence. The more shared past there is in a relationship, the more present you need to be; otherwise, you will be forced to relive the past again and again.
… You will gain the most from this experience if you don’t take it too seriously, if you don’t create impossible standards for your conduct of behavior, if you try so hard to be Present and Still that you behave like a robot, if you withdraw into a cocoon of self-protection, or if you blame your family members for every little imperfect act from the past that harmed you in some way.
Instead, and above all, choose to relax, reduce your expectations for what may or may not happen, expect little skirmishes, disagreements, moments of humility or failure, and the distance you may feel with your family as a whole, knowing that you are trying to move beyond the ego patterns that have been impediments to your soul and that they care less about ego and Presence and even Truth.
Love and accept them where they’re at. Have compassion for their pain. Be observant while being engaged as guilelessly as possible. Watch yourself and your reactions, out of curiosity, not judgment or blame, but for the benefit of learning how and where you’re really at in your spiritual evolution.”
So … Don’t take it too seriously. Relax. Expect to re-live some moments rooted in the past. Love and accept them for who they are, rather than wishing them to be different. And above all, don’t just bring a present Be Present.
I was raised in a family where this question was rarely asked. There was a guiding principle of conformity and an expectation to fit in with what those in charge wanted.
Denying our feelings becomes a part of being a child of a narcissistic parent or partner.
I grew up putting aside how I honestly felt, and instead, attuned to the needs of others. I became very good at sensing the emotions of others, and how to please them. I did it with my parents and then with my first husband.
I found myself in a career that my father would be proud of, that left me feeling empty and confused.
Along the way I lost touch with how I felt.
This was not the road to happiness, but I told myself that lifestyle was the most important thing.
It took me over 40 years to wake up to what happiness is, and to let myself feel the feelings that had been suppressed for so long.
For those of you in your twenties and thirties who can relate to this, please don’t waste the next twenty years of your lives.
I believe that we all deserve to honor our feelings… the good, the bad and the ugly. To honor them and then take responsibility for them. Even if it is goes against the grain or what others expect.
Those feelings are trying to tell you that something needs attention and understanding.
We all need to be true to ourselves, to honor how we feel, and own our feelings.
This is being real and authentic in the world. Only from here, can we take the right step forward and find happiness.
The river is immense, and it has the capacity to receive, embrace, and transform.
When our hearts are small, our understanding and compassion are limited. We can’t accept or tolerate others and their shortcomings, and we demand that they change. In this state, we suffer.
But when our hearts expand, these same things don’t make us suffer anymore. We have a lot of understanding and compassion and can embrace others and their shortcomings.
We accept others as they are, and then they have a chance to transform… in their own way and in their own time.
Our heart is immense, and it has the capacity to receive, embrace, and transform.
“There are three levels of truth: experience, reasoning, and knowing.
All other assertions should be rejected.”
The first type of truth is from our direct experience.
The second type, is truth gained from reasoning and analysis.
The third type of truth is different from the first two. This is the way of spiritual knowing. This knowledge is beyond words, description and rationalization There is no need for other investigations.
In fact, one must be careful not to let the fruits of one’s meditations pass into the realm of rationalization.
To avoid doubt and conflicting opinions, followers of Tao keep their revelations and spiritual knowing to themselves.
~ Deng Ming-Dao from 365 Tao
The more we try to analyze a truth, the more doubt and confusion arises in the mind.
The answer lies beyond our experience and our thinking mind.
This sense of knowing requires faith in the ultimate truth and in our ability to let go.
We are light bearers, stewards
of a truth that insists on being
shared despite doubt or fear or
imagined limitation. We spread
the flame by teaching, or by growing
still, by daring to be outrageous
and dancing beneath the full moon,
or by holding a friend in need
and taking part in life’s normal
routines. This is our message –
there is hope encoded in each
cell, each loving thought, each
time we reach out to one another.
There’s truth that won’t be stopped
by toppling buildings, snipers’
bullets, war clouds on the horizon,
or the inner storms of grief, despair
and insecurity. We are the peace we’ve
been seeking, the peace that stretches
beyond the mind’s need for form or
understanding, the peace for which
each human heart longs. Now is
the time for the light bearers to
offer up the truth of who
and what we really are.
~ Danna Faulds
We are the peace that we’ve been seeking.
Never forget this when doubt arises.
For it surely will, along this path of inner and outer transformation.
There is truth that won’t be stopped.
~ Wu Hsin Translated by Roy Melvyn from “The Lost Writing of Wu Hsin”
These words brought a smile today.
Ah yes, we may want life to be flowing and “natural”, yet we tend not to accept the very nature of it.
Embrace the highs and lows of life my friends.