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The Gift of Letting Go

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“Sometimes letting go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on”

~ Eckhart Tolle

Letting go can be more powerful that putting our energy into defending or hanging on… yet it is often hard to do.

Sometimes we don’t realize that we are holding on to something, until we notice tension in our body or mind. Or we feel miserable and don’t know why! And even then, our resistance to surrender continues.

I like to think of letting go as a real gift to ourselves.

To let go, we give up the illusion of control, and the protective barrier we have put up.

We become vulnerable, and in doing so, we let the love in.

It is an act of compassion and acceptance.

It connects us to the present moment and to our inner being.

It allows the moving energy to flow once more.

What can you let go of today as a loving gift to yourself?

Namaste

40 responses to “The Gift of Letting Go”

  1. Jill Weatherholt Avatar
    Jill Weatherholt

    Wonderful words, Val! I love the quote too. ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Jill! It really resonated with me today 💛

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  2. Louise Gallagher Avatar
    Louise Gallagher

    Very true words Val. Letting go is a constant process of being conscious of where I’m at, how I’m being present in loving acceptance of what is. ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Louise. It is a constant practice 💛

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  3. Nurse Kelly Avatar
    Nurse Kelly

    Control really is an illusion. Thank you for this great post, Val. Hope you are well. xo

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thanks Kelly 💛 Good to see you!

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      1. Nurse Kelly Avatar
        Nurse Kelly

        You too Val! Hope you have a lovely day! xo

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    […] Thanks to Val Boyko at Find Your Middle Ground for this morning’s inspiration in her post, The Gift of Letting Go. […]

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  5. Paul Handover Avatar
    Paul Handover

    In a year where for both Jeannie and me our mortality has been never far away letting go of the future seems most important. Learning to live in the present, as our dogs do so well!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      So true Paul. Our dogs are such great reminders of how to live life well ❤️

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  6. insearchofitall Avatar
    insearchofitall

    So true. Letting go is a daily process. Letting go of thoughts, things, ideas that no longer work and people that have other agendas. Have a great week.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Marlene! May we all let go just a little more every day and find our way to flow 💛
      Have a wonderful week. xo

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  7. Barbara Rodgers Avatar
    Barbara Rodgers

    Letting go — I’ve gotten much better at it as I age… The past several years I’ve been letting go of heirlooms handed down to me and taking up so much physical and emotional space. The biggest one, perhaps, was a baby grand piano I inherited from my great-grandmother. I shed a few tears when it was taken away, whispered “sorry Grammy” to her and myself and accepted the reality that nothing lasts forever. Funny how objects can last longer than the people who used them. I think about this often when I go to estate sales….

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I hear you Barbara. I have an attic full of grandparents heirlooms that have nowhere to go … it is hard letting go of the material things as they are often connected with memories and emotions that we want to hold on to. Thank you 💛

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  8. Jet Eliot Avatar
    Jet Eliot

    whew! This message goes deep, Val, and comes at the perfect time.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      For me too Jet. Glad it helped today 💕

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  9. Esme upon the Cloud Avatar
    Esme upon the Cloud

    It’s so lovely and peaceful here, just as it is at Hariod’s place. Great advice and thoughts to think on for the afternoon Val, thank you – *smiles*

    – esme uponthe Cloud

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Smiling … thank you Esme for your kind words 💕
      When I read your comment I thought you wrote it was peaceful like Harrod’s ….. 🙃

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      1. Esme upon the Cloud Avatar
        Esme upon the Cloud

        That wouldn’t be very peaceful at all eh? *falls about*

        – Esmeralda the posh upon the Cloud

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  10. nrhatch Avatar
    nrhatch

    Let it go . . . and go with the flow!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I’ll join you there 🙏
      Thanks Nancy 💛

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  11. SpiritualJourney17 Avatar
    SpiritualJourney17

    Meaningful coincidence…at my class last night we were discussing when we felt dense energy what did we do to release it or let go. Great post!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      So glad you enjoyed it … and the synchronicity 💛

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  12. Healing Grief Avatar
    Healing Grief

    Feeling light in this moment letting go. Have a wonderful weekend Val 💚🙏🏻

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thanks Karen! I hope yours is awesome❣️

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  13. Ann Coleman Avatar
    Ann Coleman

    I’m not sure why your blog speaks to me so often, but it sure does. I’m not always good at giving myself the gift of letting go, but I’m getting better at it. And it is wonderful!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Yeah Ann❣️ thank you for being here and appreciating the ride through life. xo

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  14. dianasschwenk Avatar
    dianasschwenk

    Love this Val, you’re on a roll! Thank you for this beautiful reminder. ❤
    Diana xo

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  15. IreneDesign2011 Avatar
    IreneDesign2011

    It is really a gift to ourselves to be able to let go, Val 🙂
    For a while I have included in my meditation to let go, what is no longer serving my purpose and it really feels like a release, when I feel the energy of what is leaving.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Bringing awareness to this is powerful Irene. May you continue to let go of whatever no longer serve you my friend 💛

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      1. IreneDesign2011 Avatar
        IreneDesign2011

        Thank you Val. Wish you a happy day ❤

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  16. derrickjknight Avatar
    derrickjknight

    So true, Val.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Derrick 💛

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  17. Tiny Avatar
    Tiny

    That is a timely question for me today: I can let go the worry about material assets in the near path of Hurricane Matthew. My son’s family is safely evacuated from North Florida and that’s all that matters. So now need to release those worries.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      May you be breathing more easily after the worst has passed Helen 💛

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  18. MK Avatar
    MK

    I just returned from vacation which concluded with a 9 hour flight. I don’t enjoy flying — something about being “out of control”. As if I ever was! Haha.

    “To let go, we give up the illusion of control”… Illusion is really the crux of it, isn’t it?

    Thanks Val.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Love this! Its the feeling of being in control that we all seem to seek MK. When we can accept that there are things that can never be in our control, it becomes easier to start to let go. Thanks!

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  19. D. Wallace Peach Avatar
    D. Wallace Peach

    It’s interesting to me how much fear there is around letting go, but once done, the freedom of all that baggage is exhilarating. Great post, Val.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      So true Diana. 💛The fear, and tension that comes when we are about to make the (ego-mind) decision to let go, makes it so much harder. Imagine if we simply went through life tuning in to the natural ebb and flow of life.
      Baggage would be a word only reserved for world travelers!

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      1. D. Wallace Peach Avatar
        D. Wallace Peach

        Love the last line, Val. Ha ha. Wonderful.

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