* Are you a Giver or a Taker?

November 9, 2015

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Inspirations, Lighten Up, middle ground, Mindfulness, New Perspectives, Purpose of Life, Self Discovery, Spirituality, Steps on the Journey, Yoga

Many of us when asked are we givers or takers, will answer “Oh yes, I am a giver”. But is it really so, or is it our ego that wants to believe it to be so…

Are you bringing your gifts to the world or are you looking for what you can get from the world?

This question opens up a huge difference in perspective as well as in our attitude and how we show up.

One comes from a place of openness, abundance and sharing, while the other comes from a place of tension, lack and self absorption. The energy is so different … and it is palpable.

All around us are people asking “What’s in it for me”? …
… When the real questions are “What can I bring to them?” “What are my talents and skills that I can offer?” “How can I share what I love to do?”

This thought came to my mind today as I recall when I was a new yoga teacher, how my attitude was that I needed to make a certain amount of money from my classes, or it wouldn’t be worthwhile.

Worthwhile to whom? To me of course… and my ego.

I had forgotten that I chose to teach because I love yoga and being a teacher. It is something I believe in and want to share with others. Its my gift to the world and my dharma or life purpose.
Whether I bring this to 4 people or 15, I impact them.

Real worth is measured by how much we express our unique selves, and how we can make a difference in the world.

So, whether you are wanting to teach a class, thinking about a career change or making a decision in your life, shift your perspective and questions! Let go of the fear of not having enough and open your heart to the abundance that is within you.

Experience the difference … and the results.

39 responses to “* Are you a Giver or a Taker?”

Ann Koplow

Nov 9, 2015 at 7:40 am

I take a lot from what you give, Val!

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 7:46 am
  
  Now that’s very balanced Ann 😊 Thank you!
  
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Hariod Brawn

Nov 9, 2015 at 8:27 am

If I come to your yoga class do I have to share my chocolate? 😮

I’m not coming. Neither is Nancy.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 8:30 am
  
  It depends on where you took the chocolate from H. 😎
  
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2. nrhatch
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 10:38 am
  
  Haha! We should bring chocolate covered pretzels . . . all twisted up in knots!
  
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  1. Val Boyko
    
    Nov 9, 2015 at 11:25 am
    
    Love it!
    
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lorriebowden

Nov 9, 2015 at 8:35 am

I love the introspection and the shift of perspective, Val. I am faced with the need to make a big decision in my life…and the overriding emotion I feel about it is fear. I know that I must change this perspective if I am to actually “make” a decision. And I must make one soon as this limbo is the energy I want to be in. Much love to you…and thank you! ♡

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 11:29 am
  
  Thank you Lorrie. When we shift our inner thinking … especially moving from the mind to the heart, we can see new openings and possibilities. Having a vision of how the future might look and embracing it with all your heart helps to quieten the fear and move us towards it. Sending you a ((hug)) my friend. xo
  
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  1. lorriebowden
    
    Nov 9, 2015 at 3:23 pm
    
    Received…and so much appreciated 🙂 ♡♡
    
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Paul Handover

Nov 9, 2015 at 8:44 am

Everything in our lives, nay in the world, comes down to relationships, and the foundation stone for those relationships is the one we have with ourselves. Just my two pennies worth!

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 11:30 am
  
  I love your tuppence worth Paul…. and of course, relationship with everything is all give and take. 💛
  
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KM Huber

Nov 9, 2015 at 9:07 am

Love this: “Let go of the fear of not having enough.” Great post, Val, as always.
Karen

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 11:32 am
  
  Karen, its good to see you!! I’m glad it resonated with you. Thank you for stopping by.
  
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Jill Weatherholt

Nov 9, 2015 at 9:40 am

“One comes from a place of openness, abundance and sharing, while the other comes from a place of tension, lack and self absorption. The energy is so different … and it is palpable.” This is so true, Val. Excellent words of wisdom today.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 11:32 am
  
  Thank you for your kind words and ongoing support Jill 💛
  
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nrhatch

Nov 9, 2015 at 11:00 am

Good points, Val.

During a show promo the other day, a newlywed insisted that she NEEDED her husband to BE the way she wanted him to be. She was focused on what she wanted to GET from the relationship, rather than on what she could BRING to the relationship. Instead of GIVING him the gift of understanding and acceptance, she DEMANDED that he give her what her misguided thoughts told her she NEEDED.

I GIVE the relationship 6 months.

That said, at times, we “take” so we have something to “give” later. It’s all about the balance of Yin ~> Yang ~> Yin ~> Yang.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 11:37 am
  
  Oh dear for that relationship! I recall someone telling me that shifting from thinking “What I want from them” to “What I want for them” was one of the more powerful shift to make in any relationship.
  Like Yin and Yang, life is all about give and take – with every interaction and every breath. It all part of the same continuum and not opposite at all.
  
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Sue Dreamwalker

Nov 9, 2015 at 11:37 am

Wonderful reminders of how our inner dialogue works.. and how we should retrain our thinking.. That is why I loved Wayne Dyer so much.. he taught similar principles .. Thank you Val for teaching US..
I so value your posts and thoughts..
Blessings Sue

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 11:56 am
  
  Thank you Sue for your kind words. I so appreciate you being in this universe! 💛
  
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  1. Sue Dreamwalker
    
    Nov 10, 2015 at 4:09 pm
    
    Like wise Val x
    
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Tiny

Nov 9, 2015 at 1:40 pm

Wise words Val! And I try to live by them…but in my “bread winning” work, I sometimes struggle with issues like “worth” and “equality” …very complex issues.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 1:43 pm
  
  Complex indeed Helen. Thank you for sharing. 💛
  
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jglennon

Nov 9, 2015 at 2:03 pm

Great post, Val. I’ve learned, and continue to learn, so much from you!

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 9, 2015 at 3:08 pm
  
  Thank you Janet! Life long learners are the best 💛
  
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socialbridge

Nov 9, 2015 at 4:55 pm

Taking can so often be even more important than giving or, that’s how it seems to me.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 10, 2015 at 1:08 pm
  
  I agree Jean. Our ability to take what is being offered is so important.💛
  
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Eliza Waters

Nov 9, 2015 at 9:51 pm

Sound advice!

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Healing Grief

Nov 9, 2015 at 9:52 pm

I will share my chocolate with you Val! These words of wisdom really do work. It’s simply a gift to know it and share it. 🙂

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 10, 2015 at 1:05 pm
  
  Thank you Helen. I will take it gladly! How else can we share without both giving and taking. Its the spirit of sharing that brings about a heartfelt way of being. 💛
  
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  1. Healing Grief
    
    Nov 10, 2015 at 2:58 pm
    
    Helen? Ha
    
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    1. Val Boyko
      
      Nov 10, 2015 at 4:13 pm
      
      That would be your twin Karen!
      
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      1. Healing Grief
        
        Nov 10, 2015 at 5:39 pm
        
        I always forget her! 🙂
        
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Minuscule Moments

Nov 10, 2015 at 2:36 am

Beautiful post Val we all need a dose of this to remind us to be generous and open.
Kath

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 10, 2015 at 1:08 pm
  
  Thanks Kath! So glad it resonated with you today 😊
  
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Maria F.

Nov 10, 2015 at 10:57 am

I like what you’re saying. The world is full of beautiful things, but “society” doesn’t owe anything to anyone. To go places ‘expecting’ things to be given to you is living in illusion. One has to learn how to give, no matter how awful one’s childhood was. It means more inner work, but it’s needed for survival.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 10, 2015 at 1:02 pm
  
  So well said Maria. Thank you for sharing your perspective. xo
  
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Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature

Nov 10, 2015 at 8:49 pm

When people think ” what’s in it for me,” thinking of the planet, we lose our environment. Hopefully people will think of what we can give to Her more. Thank you Val. Wonderful post.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Nov 10, 2015 at 9:20 pm
  
  Thank you so much. May we all be more giving towards our planet that gives us so much!
  
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IreneDesign2011

Nov 12, 2015 at 3:11 am

Very wise post Val. I find it difficult with relationships where the involved are opposites. Maybe it is just me. I need to learn to take too, are so much better to give, I feel.

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