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* There Are No Perfect Human Beings

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Let’s embrace all part of ourselves today, especially our imperfections 💛

Val T Boyko's avatarFind Your Middle Ground

It’s time to give up the illusion of being perfect and accept our human nature.

“There are no perfect human beings! Persons can be found who are good, very good indeed, in fact, great. There do in fact exist creators, seers, sages, saints, shakers, and movers…even if they are uncommon and do not come by the dozen. And yet these very same people can at times be boring, irritating, petulant, selfish, angry, or depressed. To avoid disillusionment with human nature, we must first give up our illusions about it.”

Abraham Maslow from Motivation and Personality

So what?…

So expect others to have their good days and bad days.

So give yourself a break when you are not feeling on top of the world all the time.

So let go of the illusion – the beliefs about how you “should” be, and how others “should” be.

Accept that life is a…

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23 responses to “* There Are No Perfect Human Beings”

  1. Mary Lou Avatar
    Mary Lou

    The highs and lows are always with us. Ride them out! 🙂 Thanks for this reminder, Val!

    Me in the Middle of Summer Reading

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Mary Lou! So glad this resonated with you today 💛

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  2. Kate Crimmins Avatar
    Kate Crimmins

    It’s good to remember that people we look to for advice like doctors, lawyers, friends, etc. are only people. They too can be wrong. We shouldn’t be so surprised.

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  3. Healing Grief Avatar
    Healing Grief

    What? I’m not perfect!? Ha and this week my sister and I discussed this exact topic. Trying to do and be too much, always gets us into trouble 😎 Thanks Val

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Such an interesting point Cate. Yes we do trust in people of status or authority and can easily put them on pedestals. Perhaps this is a hang over from being so impressed by “big people” when we were little. But for whatever reason, I agree that we must see the warts of being human… And accept that we are all falable, even with the best intentions and skills.

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    2. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Sorry Karen, I got out of synch In responding to Cate.
      Thank you for sharing your perspective and conversation with your sister.
      Trying to do and be too much is always interesting when we ask … For whom? And if it isn’t for ourself, what is the cost?
      Of course, sisters will usually get into trouble together anyway 😉

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  4. Jill Weatherholt Avatar
    Jill Weatherholt

    Wonderful words of wisdom, Val. Striving for perfection is exhausting. ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Great point Jill! When we see how futile it is to strive for the unattainable, and realize how much it costs us … we can choose another direction for our energy.
      Hopefully it is a direction that will nourish ourselves and support others too 💕

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  5. insearchofitall Avatar
    insearchofitall

    Maslow had it right oh so long ago. Brilliant man. I loved this reminder.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      He did have some good points didn’t he Marlene. I’m glad your enjoyed this quote of his! 💛

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  6. Hariod Brawn Avatar
    Hariod Brawn

    Well, I’m “boring, irritating, petulant, selfish, angry, and depressed.” So things are looking good! 🙂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      That’s exactly what I love and admire about you Hariod 💛

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      1. Hariod Brawn Avatar
        Hariod Brawn

        Thanks Val, and I left flippancy off my list, which I also must ask your forgiveness for. H ❤

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        1. Val Boyko Avatar
          Val Boyko

          Humor and humility are also appreciated ☺️

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          1. Hariod Brawn Avatar
            Hariod Brawn

            What humour? 😉

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  7. socialbridge Avatar
    socialbridge

    So true, Val. It’s easy to forget that everyone is human and vulnerable, despite appearances and achievements.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      So true Jean. Thank you for adding to the conversation 💛

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  8. Ann Koplow Avatar
    Ann Koplow

    Thank you for this perfect break from perfectionism, Val. ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Ann 💛

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  9. baimeilian Avatar
    baimeilian

    I agree. With the popularity of social media, the highly impossible dream of perfection seems attainable through careful planning , but the truth is still clear.

    Thank you for this reminder 🙂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thanks for adding this perspective about social media. So true.

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  10. LuAnne Holder Avatar
    LuAnne Holder

    Sometimes I look at this from another perspective – while I might not be “perfect” because I’m still growing, I can be in the “perfect” place all the time. Here is a quote from a poet I admire, Mark Nepo – “For the flower, it is fully open at each step of its blossoming.” It’s just a different way of looking at the same concept. Wonderful post!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I love this perspective too LuAnne. We can find each moment as perfect 💕

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This blog came to life one morning in 2013.  I woke up with these words in my mind:  “Life is a series of highs and lows. Be grateful for the highs. Be graceful in the lows. And find contentment in your Middle Ground.”

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