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* Reflections

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“We don’t see things as they are, we see them as we are”
Anais Nin

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Everything we see is a reflection of ourselves.

We can only see in others that which we have knowledge of, based on our own experience.

What we admire and love most in others is a reflection of the parts of ourselves we may not have fully acknowledged or expressed.

… We are beautiful and magnificent ❤

What we dislike most in others is a reflection of the parts of ourselves we may not have fully acknowledged or integrated.

… We are works in progress learning and growing through each encounter ❤

Are you ready to embrace all that you see as a reflection of  you?

31 responses to “* Reflections”

  1. suzicate Avatar
    suzicate

    So true. We are works in progress. 🙂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Indeed Suz 🙂

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  2. nrhatch Avatar
    nrhatch

    That Anais Nin quote has long been a favorite. We see the world behind our eyes. When we are full of gratitude, we see things to add to that gratitude. When we are feeling “sour,” life appears sour to us.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Great point Nancy 🙂

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  3. jmgoyder Avatar
    jmgoyder

    Yes.

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  4. David Kanigan Avatar
    David Kanigan

    “What we dislike most in others is a reflection of the parts of ourselves we may not have fully acknowledged or integrated.” This, Val, has me thinking…

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      It can be powerful David. Especially when our ego shrivels at the thought. Asking the question “How am I that” can open up new insights into our very human shadow side …

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  5. dianasschwenk Avatar
    dianasschwenk

    I’ve always been aware that when people bug me, I’ve probably got that same quality, but I never thought of it the other way. When I admire people, there may be a quality within me that I haven’t expressed. I like that Val! ❤
    Diana xo

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Ah yes … its all a reflection Diana.
      You are magnificent 🙂
      xo

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      1. dianasschwenk Avatar
        dianasschwenk

        Aww shucks, thanks Val. The feeling is mutual! ❤
        Diana xo

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  6. Paul Handover Avatar
    Paul Handover

    Great post. And, of course, so closely aligned to not being able to like (and love) others until one likes (and loves) oneself! Easier said than done!

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  7. Ann Koplow Avatar
    Ann Koplow

    I love seeing the way you reflect, Val.

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  8. Tiny Avatar
    Tiny

    Thought-provoking! Will need to go a bit deeper into this and look at my likes and dislikes…but I definitely like what I see here on your blog 🙂

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      It does make the mind go round in loops when we delve in here Tiny. The ego doesn’t like looking at parts of itself that is less than it would like to be.
      Thank you for stopping by 🙂

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      1. Tiny Avatar
        Tiny

        So true Val.

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  9. dilipnaidu Avatar
    dilipnaidu

    Beautiful and so true.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you for your kind words!

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  10. Healing Grief Avatar
    Healing Grief

    The life we create really is a reflection of how we see ourselves in this world. Everytime I shift a belief in me, so does the world around me and how others see me and treat me. Love the quote Val 🙂 This is so true.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Karen, I love this perspective. 🙂

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  11. Chatter Master Avatar
    Chatter Master

    This makes so much sense out of life.

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Agreed Colleen … otherwise it would be non-sense!

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      1. Chatter Master Avatar
        Chatter Master

        Ah. Well played Val. 😉

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  12. Hariod Brawn Avatar
    Hariod Brawn

    You make the profound simple Val; it is a gift you have. H ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      Thank you Hariod. This really does take us as deep as we are ready to go. I so appreciate you being part of the journey into profound simplicity 🙂

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  13. Kate @ Did That Just Happen? Avatar
    Kate @ Did That Just Happen?

    This one falls along in my current life journey, and realizing and letting go of the assumptions I bring to the table, because it is painfully true! What we see is based on US! Great reminder for my Monday morning!

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      “What we see is based on US” is a perfect summary Kate! Of course, I enjoy others who summarize like I do 😉

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  14. Carrie Cannady Avatar
    Carrie Cannady

    One of my favorite quotes…it reminds me of the mirrors that are all around me in all of the people in my life. Blessings to you, dear Val. ❤

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  15. Rekhaaa Avatar
    Rekhaaa

    We are all work in progress and nobody is perfect. Great post Val. Enjoy every day of the week. ❤

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    1. Val Boyko Avatar
      Val Boyko

      I so agree with you. Thank you Rekhaaa for stopping by 🙂

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      1. Rekhaaa Avatar
        Rekhaaa

        My pleasure. I love your blog val.

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  16. Mélanie Avatar
    Mélanie

    I love Anaïs Nin, too… 🙂

    “nous ne voyons pas les choses comme elles sont, mais comme NOUS sommes…”(Anaïs Nin)

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