What we think of as wisdom, is often a clarity of perspective.

In Judith Lasater’s book Living Your Yoga, she shares a Zen storyย that really shifted how I saw things. Here it is:

empty row boat

One day, a man is in his rowboat on a lake, and it begins to get foggy. Through the fog, he sees another boat coming down the towards him. The boat is coming right toward him, faster and faster.

He starts to shout out, but the boat keeps coming and smashes right into him. The man gets angry and strains to see who was so thoughtless and stupid! And then he sees that the other boat was empty. His anger collapses in that moment.

This is a classic story on our whole life situation…

There are a lot of empty boats out there.

There are a lot of angry people feeling like victims.

Just as an empty boat that rams into us isnโ€™t targeting us, so too, people who act unkindly are often driven along by the unconscious pain inside of them.

By pausing and stepping back, we can find our middle ground and clarity of perspective.

Mantra for Today: “The rowboat is empty”

33 responses to “The Row Boat is Empty”

  1. Great illustration of the folly of our thinking, with a better alternative. Thanks, Val. โค

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    1. Thank you Eliza. I like the term “the folly of our thinking” ๐Ÿ’›

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    1. Thanks Kate! It is ๐Ÿ’›

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  2. A perfect & perfectly tru little wisdom story. Thanks Val.

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    1. Thank you MK! This story sticks … so well ๐Ÿ’›

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    1. Thank you Dennis ๐Ÿ’›

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  3. Agreed Dennis. Thank you ๐Ÿ™

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  4. Wonderful zen story Val. A good reminder to see a wider perspective. Often the empty boats only crash into to us to wake us up and heal! ๐Ÿ’š๐Ÿ’š Namaste friend ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป

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    1. I like that thought Karen. Empty boats as wake up calls to healing โฃ

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  5. I feel less foggy now, Val! Thanks for the beautiful boat and blog post.

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    1. Thank you Ann for bringing clarity and kindness ๐Ÿ’›

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  6. A boatiful parable. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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    1. You are in good form Hariod! It touches my inner rowing ๐Ÿ’›

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  7. This is so true, Val! Thanks for sharing.

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    1. Thank you Jill. Glad you enjoyed itโฃ

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  8. So many empty boats bombarding us daily. Excellent, Val. ๐Ÿ’˜

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    1. I was thinking the same thing Van. ๐Ÿ’•

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  9. Perfect mantra, Val. I’ll remember that. Thank you. Have a lovely Sunday. xo

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    1. It is such a useful mantra. Glad you enjoyed it Kelly! ๐Ÿ’•

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  10. Loved this one, Val! Sometimes we do need to remember that it really isn’t “all about us.” Sometimes bad things just happen. But I love the image of the empty row boat!

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    1. Thank you Ann! As Karen shared … Sometimes the empty boat can be a call to wake up ๐Ÿ’›

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  11. Val, I love the message here.
    The story touched a chord as I was out in a beach in dense fog the other day and witnessed a ‘tourist’ launching his kayak and disappearing into the rocky sea.
    I was thinking about him for hours and was so relieved when he drove passed me with the kayak on the roof rack still in a fog!
    We simply can’t govern other peoples actions.

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    1. So true Jean. We can only deal with our own reactions and emotions. Glad he was ok though!
      Thank you for sharing ๐Ÿ’›

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  12. Rule #1: Take nothing personally…Love the wisdom of the Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz.

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    1. Yes. Me too Suzi ๐Ÿ’› thank you for sharing the wisdom here!

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  13. Lovely thoughtful post Val. We all have our own personal boat of problems – no one is free from difficulties even if on the surface they may appear trouble free.

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    1. Thank you Marje for sharing this perspective โฃ

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  14. I agree and try to live with that premise, that how others treat me (rude, cutting me off in traffic, etc.) is a reflection on them, not me… but “the rowboat is empty” is a much easier way to see that all have our own path and I can only control mine! Loved this!

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    1. Kate, so good to see you here! Thank you for bringing your insights and presence ๐Ÿ’

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  15. Brilliant! There ARE a lot of empty boats out there. ๐Ÿ˜‰

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โ— About Me

My name is Val Boyko, a dual citizen living near Philadelphia, originally from Scotland.

This blog came to life one morning in 2013.  I woke up with these words in my mind:  “Life is a series of highs and lows. Be grateful for the highs. Be graceful in the lows. And find contentment in your Middle Ground.”

Find Your Middle Ground blog started to explore, reflect, ask deep questions, share insights about awakening, and connect with wonderful people like yourself. Thank you for being here and being such an inspiration.