Letting Go


Autumn is the season for letting go and inner reflection. We often think of “letting go” in a certain way, based on our personal experience of it. Different perspectives can open us up to new possibilities. I came across these words today and thought I would share them with you. How do they resonate with you?

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Letting go does not mean to stop caring;
it means I can’t do it for someone else.

Letting go is not to cut myself off;
it’s the realization I can’t control another.

Letting go is not to enable;
which means the outcome is not in my hands.

Letting go is not to try to change or blame another;
it’s to make the most of myself.

Letting go is not to care for; but to care about.

Letting go is not to fix; but to be supportive.
it’s not to judge but to allow another to be a human being.

Letting go is not to be in the middle arranging the outcome;
but to allow others to affect their own destinies.

Letting go is not to be protective;
it’s to permit another to face reality.

Letting go is not to deny; but to accept.

Letting go is not to nag, scold or argue;
but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

Letting go is not to adjust everything to my own desires;
but to take each day as it comes and cherish myself in it.

Letting go is not to criticize and regulate anybody;
but to try to become what I dream I can be.

Letting go is to not regret the past;
but to grow and life for the future.

Letting go is to fear less and live more.

~ author unknown


19 responses to “Letting Go”

  1. Letting go is definitely the key to life to the full. It’s a great place to start the conversation. But this kind of “letting go” is not really a “doing” as much as an “allowing”, a sort of “non-doing.” I believe you can’t really “try harder” to let go! It’s more a “falling in trust to an Ultimate Mystery who is Love”. And then, paradoxically, we start “doing” — but from the identity of a more authentically true self.

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    1. Thank you Bill. I agree, we canโ€™t try hard to let go! Itโ€™s not about doing, but a shift in our Being. Allowing and being open are the keys. I love โ€œfalling into trust to the Ultimate Mystery that is Loveโ€

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    Thank you Val! I love this poem!

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    1. Thank you Linda ๐Ÿ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ๐Ÿงก

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  3. โ€œDetachmentโ€ is what the maple leaf tells us as it drifts in golden glory to the ground.

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    1. Beautifully said. Thank you๐Ÿ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ๐Ÿงก

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    1. Thank you Cindy โฃ๏ธ

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  4. This resonates with me, Val. Thanks!

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    1. Thank you Jenniferโฃ๏ธ

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  5. Loving ourselves opens that cage of fear and sets us free. A hard journey yes, but in understanding it gives an appreciation, a huge appreciation of what it is built on. Great post Val, the words are beautiful. You can feel them ‘letting go’ as we speak them within ๐Ÿ˜€โค๏ธ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฝ

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    1. Thank you Mark. I love โ€œ loving ourselves opens that cage of fear and sets us freeโ€
      Have a great weekend my friend ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’›

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  6. It is our freedom ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป

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    1. It is. Freedom from suffering. Thank you Karen ๐Ÿ’–

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  7. Wonderfully wise words, Excellent Val… These words popped out the most to me this morning ..
    ” Letting go is not to be protective;
    itโ€™s to permit another to face reality. ”

    Sending love and Blessings dear one.. โค

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    1. I love your insight. Being protective is a form of grasping or controllingโ€ฆ even when we have the best of jntentions. Have a wonderful weekend ๐Ÿฅฐ

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  8. If you are headed for the mountain top, why do you care what the people in the valley are doing?
    ~ Guy Finley (The Secret of Letting Go)

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    1. Now that is interesting. Thanks for getting the brain going this morning. I would change the wording to Why be bothered by the people in the valley. Caring for other human beings surely goes with the journey.

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      1. Makes sense. I don’t remember the exact context of the quote. ๐Ÿ˜€

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My name is Val Boyko, a dual citizen living near Philadelphia, originally from Scotland.

This blog came to life one morning in 2013.  I woke up with these words in my mind:  “Life is a series of highs and lows. Be grateful for the highs. Be graceful in the lows. And find contentment in your Middle Ground.”

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