inner alignment
The time in between
when I tend to skip forward
and forget what's here.

Moving to what's next
keeps me out of the present.
Brings separation.

Take the time to pause
Tune in to self and others
Don't withdraw just yet.

Cherish the time here
Let go of the busyness
Find your Middle Ground.

These words filtered through this morning with the dawn. Advice for myself!

I am leaving for Scotland on Monday night to join my mother and family for her pre-90th birthday celebrations. It will be a special time for us all to be together and for Mum and I to spend some “girl” time.

I have been so busy looking forward, planning and organizing for the time away, that I have not been fully present in my days here. In some way, I have already left, and I feel off balance. Its important for me to acknowledge this and make the most of my time at home without skipping ahead and out of the present.

Sitting with this, I realize that I have spent so much of my life in this way. Looking forward to the next thing, a vacation, a goal to be achieved or a project to be completed. Not being really here, to pause, consider and allow myself to feel what I may be avoiding.

Ah yes, that’s it. It’s so simple, yet profound.

Pause, acknowledge and feel. Take care of this younger self who wasn’t at ease in the present. She needs this wisdom now… and a gentle hug to bring her back to her center.

Aahhh … that’s better.

(Thanks Nancy for letting me use your line 🥰 )

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Val Boyko is originally from Scotland and came to the United States over 30 years ago. At "Find Your Middle Ground" Val brings together her experience as a life coach, yoga teacher, spiritual explorer and mentor, to inspire awakening to the light and greater understanding within us all. This blog is a place of exploration and discovery as we explore opening our hearts and finding harmony and peace in the highs and lows of life 💛

37 comments on “The Time in Between

  1. beth's avatar

    Perfectly said

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  2. Jim Borden's avatar

    have a wonderful trip – and happy birthday to your mum.

    I am the same way, always looking ahead to what’s next. thanks for the reminder to enjoy the present…

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  3. Linda Rappaport's avatar
    Linda Rappaport

    A wonderful reminder of being present. Have a great trip and celebration!

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  4. Michele Anderson's avatar

    Very important reminder, Val. I know that I always need to remind myself to stay in the present. Enjoy your time with your Mom and family. It’s a precious time for sure.

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  5. Mark Lanesbury's avatar

    Have a good time dear lady, nothing like looking forward to something too 😀 ❤️ 🙏🏽 🦋

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  6. Infinite Living's avatar

    Yes!! I lived so much of life in this ignorance, in the planning and anticipating of the future – I remember a certain kind of deadness in me when I did it way too much. I am so grateful on this other side, so much more alive – yet still can use more Pause, more reminders like these I appreciate.

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  7. Karen Lang's avatar

    It’s always better when we pause and align with this moment 🧡🤗🧡

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  8. Eliza Waters's avatar

    We all often get swept away, don’t we? Good to remind ourselves now and again to breathe and slow down. 🙂 Have a lovely trip ‘home’ and best birthday wishes to your mother upon her 90th!

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  9. nrhatch's avatar

    enjoy your time awa’ and all the moments in between

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  10. Shyamini's avatar

    Enjoy the trip

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  11. Kathy's avatar

    Val, our moms are the same age. (And the same age my father-in-law was.) I hope you have a wonderful trip. I will try–with you–to remember this knowing. To stay right here in this precious moment without hurrying on ahead. Our minds so tend to do this.

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  12. Ali's avatar

    A wonderful message. Travel safe

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  13. Sarah Gawthorpe's avatar
    Sarah Gawthorpe

    I so so loved reading this Val. Such a wonderful reminder. I’m trying to litter my day with little pauses, and it helps me so much. Have a lovely time in Scotland. Sarah x

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  14. Ally Stardust's avatar

    Thanks for that reminder, Val, I tend to go ahead of myself at times, instead of living in the present. Enjoy the celebrations. 🙂

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  15. Vicki L Flaherty's avatar

    Such beautiful wisdom. Thank you. Wishing you a safe, healthy and joy-full trip to Scotland – may the festivities be wonder-full!

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  16. alex's avatar

    Thank you for sharing! I so connected with that constant looking forward to, planning and organising things. Although the whole Covid saga helped a lot in releasing this control, I guess the pause is still the best practice🙏🧚🏻‍♂️ be happy

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  17. Sue Dreamwalker's avatar

    By now you will have travelled and be that little bit closer to my time zone lol… I hope you are enjoying your family gathering, what a wonderful celebration mile-stone to reach.. Enjoy your time in between dear Val… I feel more and more of us are feeling that need to withdraw within and just BE with those whom we Love.. as we anchor in the Light ..
    Lots of love dear friend… ❤ ❤ ❤

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  18. Lux Reader's avatar

    A wonderful reminder to seize the day and enjoy the present. I love this.

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