Inner Spaciousness

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”

~ Viktor E. Frankl

The pause between our reaction to an external stimuli and how we choose to respond is essential in our evolution as human beings. Otherwise we react instinctively from our animal brain.

Space allows us to be open to choose our response

Gives the time for deep full breaths with long exhales.

There is more here than clearing the mind

Being present to our inner state

Reduces clutter and brings clarity.

Space allows for expansion

Learning to be observers without judgment.

In this space our life energy flows through our being

Mind, body and spirit connect

Drawn to the light of inner freedom

Namaste

28 responses to “Inner Spaciousness”

derrickjknight

Apr 3, 2019 at 7:04 am

An excellent lesson

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:59 am
  
  Thank you Derrick 💛
  (BTW I haven’t been able to read your posts while away. Not sure if it’s poor internet or if the photo file is too big for the WordPress app. Looking forward to catch up when I get home tmorrow)
  
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  1. derrickjknight
    
    Apr 9, 2019 at 5:06 am
    
    Thank you
    
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Sue Dreamwalker

Apr 3, 2019 at 7:58 am

Excellent advice, you see it time and time again when people react on the spur of the moment, how they perhaps wished they had paused for that deep breath and given it some thought.
I am learning to observe more and more. and take more spaces even between blogs.. lol..
Sending Huge hugs dearest Val, your posts are always full of wisdom..
Love and Blessings ❤ 🙏🌈🌷🌷🌷

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:56 am
  
  Thank you dear Sue 🙏
  
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  1. Sue Dreamwalker
    
    Apr 10, 2019 at 6:41 am
    
    ❤ Hugs
    
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insearchofitall

Apr 3, 2019 at 9:09 am

This one had me thinking. Never a good idea to respond before we take a pause.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:55 am
  
  Thanks Marlene 💛
  
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nrhatch

Apr 3, 2019 at 9:10 am

Many of my “best” choices emerged from that space . . .

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:54 am
  
  It’s such a powerful awareness to have. I’m living it a lot right now as childhood triggers come up and I can now see them for what they are. 😉 Patience and humor help bring perspective too. Thanks Nancy 🙏
  
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  1. nrhatch
    
    Apr 9, 2019 at 4:42 pm
    
    Patience + Humor = Perfect Together!
    
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    1. Val Boyko
      
      Apr 10, 2019 at 3:18 pm
      
      A great combo ❣️
      
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pirootb

Apr 3, 2019 at 10:50 am

This is very true. Allowing space between external stimulus and our response is also empowering. We are no more bound to react in a certain way. Even when something unpleasant happens, we can choose a positive mindset and respond from there, rather than getting trapped in dark negativity. This choice empowers us.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:50 am
  
  Thank you for your insightful words 💛
  
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Marty

Apr 3, 2019 at 11:10 am

There is also a space between our inhales and exhales, the pauses.

This space can help develop the other space.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:48 am
  
  Thank you for adding to this and bringing your wisdom Marty 💛
  
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carterwild

Apr 3, 2019 at 2:17 pm

This is such a forgotten skill!

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:45 am
  
  It is. Thank you Carter 💛
  
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Infinite Living

Apr 3, 2019 at 4:52 pm

The pause and the space is where a lot awaits and a lot unfolds – wisdom for action comes from there.

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:44 am
  
  Beautifully said PD. Thank you 💛
  
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Mark Kerry

Apr 3, 2019 at 7:10 pm

Fantastic life skill

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:44 am
  
  Thank you Mark 🙏
  
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Carrie Cannady

Apr 4, 2019 at 7:56 am

Viktor Frankl left us such a powerful legacy of wisdom from his experience. One of my favorite quote of his…and a very timely post, dear Val. 🙏🏻

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:43 am
  
  Thank you Carrie 💛 Its timely for me as well 😊
  
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Bela Johnson

Apr 4, 2019 at 12:34 pm

Yup. Took me years to cultivate the habit of pausing, both outwardly but more importantly inwardly. Such a difference, allowing me to perceive things as they are rather than simply reacting to an emotional trigger. Aloha, Val. ❤

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1. Val Boyko
  
  Apr 9, 2019 at 2:42 am
  
  Aloha Bela. Thank you for your understanding presence 💕
  
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  1. Bela Johnson
    
    Apr 9, 2019 at 2:45 am
    
    💗
    
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smilecalm

Apr 6, 2019 at 9:51 pm

a wonderful reaction
to take an action
of enjoying an in breath
rather than saying what
i would have said 🙂

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My name is Val T Boyko and I live outside of Philadelphia, USA. I’m originally from Scotland and hold dual citizenship. You can take the girl out of Scotland but you can’t take Scotland out of the girl!

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