Inspiration to Boost your Karma in the New Year

Karma domino effect

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Every year I like to review this list to bring good Karma to the year ahead, and beyond. This year I have added more self compassion and kindness towards others. Let me know what resonates with you this year.
  1. Keep your word.
  2. Be curious. Listen to understand.
  3. Show respect to everyone you encounter.
  4. Be respectful of those you haven’t met.
  5. Be a good friend.
  6. Look for the best in everyone.
  7. Be kind to others.
  8. Be kind to yourself.
  9. Forgive others.
  10. Forgive yourself.
  11. When you make a mistake say, “I’m sorry.
  12. Pour out your love when someone asks for it.
  13. Put your children’s needs before your own.
  14. When someone is speaking to you, be fully present and listen.
  15. Express yourself joyfully.
  16. Don’t be cruel with your words.
  17. Be grateful for everything you have. It is more than enough.
  18. Share your wisdom with those who ask for it.
  19. Give away what you don’t need.
  20. Help keep the Earth beautiful and safe for generations to come.
  21. Look behind you, stop and hold the door open for others.
  22. Savor every moment. The good, bad and the ugly. That’s life!
  23. Don’t forget to bring the dogs in after you have let them out.
  24. Smile more. Laugh lots!
  25. Expect life to be good.
  26. Do the right thing, especially when no one is watching.
  27. Dance with abandon. Always.
  28. Share the love you have been given and pass it on to others.
  29. Learn from your mistakes, and grow from them.
  30. Lighten up!
  31. Share what you believe in.
  32. Relax. Breathe. And S-L-O-W down.
  33. Be true to the beautiful being that you are.

Embrace your Authentic Self in the New Year

middle ground moment

Every year I choose  to recommit to becoming more authentic and true. To accept my human imperfections and to keep listening to my heart and soul for guidance.

The best New Year’s intention is to live up to our values and be authentic and kind in our decisions and actions.

There is all the difference in the world between believing in something and actually living it! May the New Year bring renewed commitment to all of our journeys.

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1. Keep returning to  your middle ground instead of rushing through life’s precious moments

2. Keep appreciating and let go of chasing

3. Keep nourishing yourself and stop doing what you know is bad for you

4. Keep identifying your own gifts and stop comparing yourself to others 

5. Keep being true to yourself instead of being good 

6. Keep being honest with yourself instead of falling into denial

7. Keep becoming fully you instead of trying to become somebody else

8. Keep trusting your intuition and let go of waiting to be sure

9. Keep being kind to yourself and fellow flawed humans, and let go of your inner critic

 10. Keep checking in with your heart and higher Self, and not let your head and smaller self take control

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When we are true to ourselves, we open up a new way of being in the world. Why not join me and choose one or two that really resonate with you for this New Year.

Wishing you al the best for 2018. May it be filled with love, beauty, grace and peace despite the highs and lows.

Val xo

 

This is a Time for Kind Sight

As we come to the end of the year, its natural to reflect on the year that has gone by, as well as to look forward to the new year ahead. This is a time for “kind sight” once again.looking backBelow are two journalling exercises to explore, now that the rush of the Holidays is over. I like to think of this as a Middle Ground pause. A time for being present, reflecting and allowing your inner wisdom to inspire you for whatever comes next.

Take a few moments to let yourself get settled and comfortable. Start by reflecting with “kind sight”on the past year. “Kind sight” means being kind to yourself, instead of being critical or judging. With “kind sight” we are able to see mistakes as lessons, and life’s challenges as times of resiliency and personal growth. 

Ask yourself the following questions and write down your answers:

Looking back on 2017…

  • What was a highlight?
  • What was a lowlight?
  • What was a surprise?
  • What do I feel proud of?
  • What do I feel grateful for?
  • What did I learn (or am still learning) from either the highlights or lowlights?

    Some people do a month by month reflection, while others evaluate important areas in their lives. (For example – career, family, health, hobbies, learning, contribution, spirituality, travel, environment, self-care, personal growth)

Once you’ve reflected on 2017, write a Future Gratitude Letter:

letter to myselfThis is a letter to yourself written a year in advance, describing all the things that you are grateful for during the year. Start with the date December 31 2017 and address it to yourself.
Include who you’ve become and what you now have or are moving towards.  Be careful not to include anything that feels like a “have to” goal or something that you “should” achieve.

This is a letter of “kind sight” for the year ahead. The key is in the energy.  If your energy feels uplifted when you think about the things you’re grateful for in a year’s time, then you are tapping into your own passion and inner wisdom.
This can be a revealing and inspiring process, letting the creative juices and intention begin it’s journey.

* Feeling Off Balance? Come to Your Senses.

Are you still recovering from holiday overload and feel off balance? Try getting out of your head and turning to your senses. In doing so you’ll refresh your mind, body and spirit and connect with your Middle Ground.
Its all too easy to be sucked into the busyness and indulgence of the season …. and we end up feeling off balance, drained and disconnected.  When we notice we are losing track of ourselves it helps to quickly re-center and re-energize before we move on. Here are 10 ideas inspired from yoga – and suitable for everyone. See what works best for you.
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 1. Let out a big sigh! As soon as you notice you are out of balance, there is something ready to be released. Very often I don’t realize how tense I am until I sigh. Its has an immediate releasing affect.   

2. Take several deep breaths, allowing yourself to feel fresh energy entering your body and stale energy being released. Feel renewed with each inhale, and refreshed with each exhale. If possible, connect movement with your breath by moving your arms out and up on the inhale and then down on the exhale.

3. Close your eyes and scan your body in your mind. Notice where you are holding tension. As you notice it, imagine sending your breath there and let the area soften. Breathe into each tense area and be mindful of the relaxation taking place.

4. Stretch. Standing tall reach for the sky and come on to your toes. Breath fully all the way into your belly. Release your heels back down on an exhale and repeat as often as it feels good.

5. Listen to music. Find a song or melody that’s either enlivening or calming, depending on your mood and what you most need.

6. Put your feet up – literally. Try moving to a wall and then raising your legs and resting them on the wall. Bring your hips as coo to the wall as you can. Make yourself  comfortable with a pillow under your neck. You can bring your legs over a chair and let your legs rest there.

7. Smell a favorite smell. It can be useful to carry an essential oil or scent with you. Experiment with a citrus scent, lavender, or mint to see what feels most refreshing.

8. Dim the lights and light a candle. Gives your eyes a rest from the screen or wherever you’ve been focusing.. Let the soft light and flicker soothe you.

9. Lie down in a gentle back bend, with a pillow under your back and  a blanket or pillow supporting your head. Allow your shoulders to relax. Feel your ribs and the space around your heart gently opening as you inhale and relax as you exhale. Rest here for several minutes.

10.  Ground yourself. Take your shoes off.  Notice the four corners of each foot and then wiggle your toes for a moment. Notice how your feet are making contact with the ground and imagine sending down roots through the soles of your feet and deep into the earth. As you inhale, imagine drawing up strength and nourishment through these roots and into your whole body.

I hope you enjoy these mindful moments to nourish and replenish.

p.s. Print this off and keep the list handy – I do!

* A Small New Year Resolution That Can Save the World

As you may know by now, I am not a supporter of New Year’s resolutions. You can call me contrary  or realistic … but when we feel pressure to commit to a change or work towards a big goal, it simply doesn’t happen without the right resources and support in place – and an inner motivation that comes from our heart and soul.

I admire people who have that within themselves- especially in the dead of winter – but for most mortals it usually ends in disappointment. The research shows only 8% of Americans follow through to the end of the year with Resolutions.

yoga mindfulnessIn a quiet moment during my yoga practice this morning I realized that there is one resolution that I want to make. I think it is one that we can all commit to as it feeds our heart and nourishes our wellbeing.

In essence it is to continue on my journey of being kind and compassionate towards myself. When we give ourselves kindness we bring kindness to those around  us, and it has a ripple effect that keeps growing.

I believe that world peace starts with being kind to ourselves and finding peace within ourselves. Helping others is a good place to start, but the real work is ours to do for ourselves. We must find that peaceful, nourishing and inspiring place I call our Middle Ground. 

This poem by Chade-Meng Tan (Google’s Jolly Good Fellow and author of Search Inside Yourself) is my inspiration for the new year.

With deep inner peace

And great compassion,self compassion and fun

Aspire daily to save the world.

But do not strive to achieve it.

Just do whatever comes naturally.

Because when aspiration is strong

And compassion blossoms,

Whatever comes naturally,

Is also the right thing to do.

Thus you,

The wise compassionate being,

Save the world while having fun.

Have a wonderful New Year filled with discovery, self kindness and fun!

Hugs, Val

* Use “Kind Sight” for the Past Year and Year Ahead

As we come to the end of 2013, its natural to reflect on the year that has gone by, as well as to look forward to the new year ahead. I’m happy to announce that I have dropped New Year Resolutions for myself and clients. no new years resolutionsGetting into action in the dead of winter is just too darn hard! (If I lived in the Southern Hemisphere it might be somewhat easier).

For me, its  a time for reflection and semi-hibernation before the juices start flowing again in early spring! So instead of New Year Resolutions I  practice “kind sight” instead.

This is a journalling exercise that you can do at a quiet moment now that the rush of the Holidays is over. I like to think of this as a Middle Ground moment. A time for being present, reflecting and allowing our inner wisdom to inspire us for whatever comes next.

Take a few moments to let yourself get settled and comfortable. Start by reflecting with “kind sight”on the past year. “Kind sight” simply means being kind to yourself, instead of being critical and hard on yourself. With “kind sight” we are able to see mistakes as lessons, and life’s challenges as times of resiliency and personal growth.

Ask yourself the following questions and write down your answers:

What happened during 2013…

What was a highlight?woman journaling

What was a lowlight?

What was a surprise?

What do I feel proud of?

What do I feel grateful for?

What did I learn (or am still learning) from either the highlights or lowlights?

Some people do a month by month reflection, while others evaluate each area of their life (career, family, health, hobbies, learning, contribution, spirituality, travel, environment, self-care, personal growth)

Once you’ve reflected on 2013, write a Future Gratitude Letter:

Dear future meThis is a letter to yourself written a year in advance, describing all the things that you are grateful for during the year. Start with the date December 31 2014 and address it to yourself.

Include who you’ve become and what you now have or are moving towards.  Be careful not to include anything that feels like a “have to” goal or something that you “should” achieve.

This is a letter of “kind sight” for the year ahead. The key is in the energy.  If your energy feels uplifted when you think about the things you’re grateful for in a year’s time, then you are tapping into your own inner wisdom.

It’s a wonderful process, very revealing and enlightening, especially over the next year. Let the creative tension and intention begin it’s journey!