Haiku – be your best

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Aim to be your best
When best is letting it go
Find Your Middle Ground
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So often in life, we are expected to strive to be successful and achieve our goals.

Yet, it’s easy to become attached and driven by them,  to the extent that we no longer enjoy or appreciate life.

In becoming attached, we become prisoners.

What do you need to let go off, to truly be your best?

Embrace your Authentic Self in the New Year

middle ground moment

Every year I choose  to recommit to becoming more authentic and true. To accept my human imperfections and to keep listening to my heart and soul for guidance.

The best New Year’s intention is to live up to our values and be authentic and kind in our decisions and actions.

There is all the difference in the world between believing in something and actually living it! May the New Year bring renewed commitment to all of our journeys.

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1. Keep returning to  your middle ground instead of rushing through life’s precious moments

2. Keep appreciating and let go of chasing

3. Keep nourishing yourself and stop doing what you know is bad for you

4. Keep identifying your own gifts and stop comparing yourself to others 

5. Keep being true to yourself instead of being good 

6. Keep being honest with yourself instead of falling into denial

7. Keep becoming fully you instead of trying to become somebody else

8. Keep trusting your intuition and let go of waiting to be sure

9. Keep being kind to yourself and fellow flawed humans, and let go of your inner critic

 10. Keep checking in with your heart and higher Self, and not let your head and smaller self take control

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When we are true to ourselves, we open up a new way of being in the world. Why not join me and choose one or two that really resonate with you for this New Year.

Wishing you al the best for 2018. May it be filled with love, beauty, grace and peace despite the highs and lows.

Val xo

 

Inspiration for growth

 

Shelduck Ruddy Fly Bif Brahminy Bird Flight

Shelduck Ruddy Fly Bif Brahminy Bird Flight

“A bird never asks, am I flying correctly”.

~ Mary Anne Radmacher

 

Listen to the compass of your heart

Follow the beat of your own drum

Stop “shoulding” all over yourself

Trust in yourself and the experience that has brought you here

All you need is within you

Grow into the wonderful being you already are
Q. How many times do we need to hear these messages, until we start to live them?  
A. As many as it takes
Tune in

Trust and act

Let go of analyzing fear filled ego mind

Do it

And fly

* Inspiration – That is What we Do

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“There are many reasons to be kind, but perhaps none is as compelling as the spiritual fact that that is what we do. It is how the inner organ of being keeps pumping … even when other beings sting.

Some say this makes us a sorry lot that never learns, but to me it holds the same beauty as berries breaking through ice and snow every spring. It is what quietly feeds the world. After all, the berries do no have any sense of purpose or charity. They are not altruistic or self-sacrificing. They simply grow to be delicious because that is what they do.”

~ Mark Nepo from The Book of Awakening

When we tune in to our essence, we know that this is what we do.

Be true to your Self.

Namaste

* Mantra for Today – how to be

This mantra works as a reminder and a guide to be yourself and be authentic in the world. If you are unsure about how to be…. then this is a powerful one to apply any time 🙂

Go on, give it a try today!

joyful girl

Express myself joyfully!

* I am Woof!

Charlie and Lola being true to themselves

Charlie and Lola being true to themselves

“The human says, “I love myself” or “I hate myself.”

The dog says, “woof, woof,”

which, translated means

I AM MYSELF.

I call that integrity – being one with yourself.”

                                                Eckhart Tolle from Guardians of Being

May we all continue to learn and grow from the connection with our loving animal companions. Charlie and Lola aren’t ours, but they adopt us when we vacation in Italy every year.

What do you think their authentic selves are waiting for here?…

* Let Yourself Be

In the highs and lows of life let yourself be.

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Let yourself be

Be what?

The being that you are

This being is found in this moment

It isn’t who you think you are. Your thinking is based on memories

Holding on to this picture of yourself is a prison

Let go of its hold over you

You are beyond anything you can think

So stop thinking

Let yourself be

Pause for a moment and take a full breath

Inhale this new moment to embrace

Exhale and let yourself be

 

Beginning …. to Find Your Middle Ground

Where do you find direction towards that place of contentment, peace of mind and connection? Your Middle Ground?

The first step is all about self discovery – really getting to know yourself.

Often we think of ourselves in terms of the roles we have in this life – in our families as parent, sister or spouse, or at work as an employee or professional, or in communities as a neighbor or volunteer etc. We’re so bound up with others that we miss getting to understand ourselves. We think we know ourselves, but we often only see ourselves in relation to other people.

Ask yourself,  “Who am I … without my children, my grandchildren, my spouse, my career?”….

Take time to get to know yourself and become aware of who you really are – your natural talents, core beliefs, values, needs, passions, triggers and fears. Much of what you will discover has come from those around you … yet there is so much more that is uniquely you! So freeing!

woman freeWhen we start to explore who we are, and see all aspects of ourselves,  we can become authentic in the world. No longer trying to live up to others’ expectations or playing a role. Our mask can be set aside and we become free to let our true nature shine through.

You become more grounded and confident, courageous and compassionate.

In my experience there are 2 ways to get to know yourself in this way:

Being Mindful

The first way to self discovery can come from yoga and the practice of mindfulness.  Noticing without judgment what is going on in your mind and your body, and acknowledging  it is incredibly powerful. I recall times on my yoga mat, when my left hip flexor tightens for no apparent reason. In the beginning I wanted the discomfort to go away and so I worked to stretch it out even more. Taking it to its limits in order to bring it into my idea of what it should be. Of course, I came across more resistance and more contraction instead. When I realized it needed some tender loving care and I backed off, the pain dissipated. I swear that hip of mine hears my thoughts!

Once you see and feel more clearly, you can choose to respond more skillfully and appropriately. My biggest lesson about myself in yoga is letting go of needing to control and accepting the way my body is….. and not to trust my thinking as being the truth.

Getting Curious

The second way to self discovery  is by taking  a coach approach and getting curious. Start to ask  yourself and answer these questions:

What are the best moments of my week?Woman journaling
What brings me happiness and joy?
What do I do at an excellent level?
What am I afraid of?
What beliefs, values and needs are important to me?
(Tip – Notice what makes you angry, because it is usually a belief or value that has been transgressed or an unmet need)
What do I want that I don’t have?

…. What else comes to mind about who you are and what you want?

In this place of questions and discovery, you may find it hard to access this inner part of yourself, or lots of judgments come up……. and that’s okay. It shows that there is room to grow into your true self!

This is just the beginning.

I truly enjoy connecting with those of you beginning this journey. Please reach out to me privately if you’d like a guide and supporter: