In the Mirror of your Mind

silent observer

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“In the mirror of your mind all kinds of pictures appear and disappear.
Knowing that they are entirely your own creations, watch them silently come and go.
Be alert, but not perturbed.
This attitude of silent observation is the very foundation of yoga. You see the picture, but you are not the picture.”

~ Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj

The foundation of yoga is to become a silent observer without attachment to the world we create in our minds.

… and then remember not to hold our breath 😊


VB – Proust Questions Answered

Thank you David Kanigan at Live and Learn for posting your answers to this Proust Questionnaire. It was such an inspiration! I couldn’t resist joining in the soul bearing.

  • What is your current state of mind? –  Curious
  • What is your favorite journey? – Inwards on my yoga mat
  • What is your idea of perfect happiness? – Letting go and being held in love
  • What is your greatest fear? – Overwhelming Violence and Cruelty that can’t be stopped
  • What is your most marked characteristic? –  Being grounded
  • What is the trait you most deplore in yourself? – Being quick to judge
  • What is the trait you most deplore in others? – Cruelty to animals
  • What is your greatest extravagance? – Eating out – especially traveling to Italy to eat out
  • What do you consider the most overrated virtue?- Godliness 
  • On what occasion do you lie?- By omission … to avoid conflict
  • Dislike most about your appearance? – The jiggly bits
  • Which living person do you most despise? – I don’t despise, but I do deplore DJT
  • Which words or phrases do you most overuse? – really? (really).
  • What is your greatest regret? Not going to art school
  • What or who is the greatest love of your life? My husband – the other DJT whom I adore
  • When and where were you happiest? – Falling in love. Something I try to repeat with each day.
  • Which talent would you most like to have? – Remembering numbers
  • If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be? Be less judgmental
  • If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be? Be less judgmental
  • What do you consider your greatest achievement? – Opening my heart to love life and others. (Still a work in progress).
  • What is your most treasured possession? – Empathy for others
  • What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery? – Believing one is unloved
  • Where would you like to live? – By the sea 
  • What is your favorite occupation? Teacher and Mentor. 
  • What is the quality you most like in a man? Humor and a big heart
  • What is the quality you most like in a woman?  Humor and a big heart
  • What do you most value in your friends? Humor and a big heart
  • Who are your favorite writers?  Jane Austin, Stephen Donaldson, Richard Adams, Tolkien, Ray Bradbury, Peter May, Mooji, Adyashanti, Lao Tzo, Mary Oliver, Danna Faulds. 
  • Who is your favorite hero of fiction? – Thomas Covenant
  • What is it that you most dislike? – Injustice. Sriracha. One burns my heart, the other my mouth.
  • Who are your heroes in real life? – People who overcome personal challenges and then give back to support and heal others
  • How would you like to die? Being at peace
  • If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what do you think it would be? – An oak tree
  • What is your motto? Find Your Middle Ground. Really!


* Recognizing your Judge

It can sometimes be tricky recognizing our own judge. When we see a situation our mind tends to leap ahead to interpret and evaluate what’s going on. Its part of being human. Our brain automatically sifts and filters information and comes to a quick conclusion. This is helpful when we are facing danger, but in every day life it can cause miscommunication and conflict.

seeing clearly

One way to recognize our judge (or someone else’s) is to look out for exaggeration or blanket statements. Can you see the difference between these statements?

“He is always late” rather than “This is the second time I’ve been waiting for 20 minutes.”

“One day you’ll fall and hurt yourself” rather than “I’m fearful that you will fall and hurt yourself.”

“She never does what I want” rather than “On the last 3 occasions I have done what she wanted to do.”

“You have no clue about what matters” rather than “I have a different point of view about what matters”

“You work too much” rather than “You’ve been working 12 hour days all week. I’m worried its too much.”

It happens more times than we may even be aware of!

Take a moment and consider … are you noticing or are you judging?

When we are able to experience what is happening – without judgment or getting triggered, we stay present.

When we simply observe, we let go of judgment and are open, rather than closed.

When we are open we can learn and grow.

The next time you find yourself in an interaction look out for your judging self. When you notice it, become the observer and ask yourself, what can I learn from this?

* Inspiration – Self Observation

A reminder for all of us who are working on self observation and dealing with our inner critic.

Be gentle with yourself on this part of the journey.

listen to yourself

Self-Observation Without Judgment 

Release the harsh and pointed inner voice.

It’s just a throwback to the past,
and holds no truth about this moment.

Let go of self-judgment, the old,
learned ways of beating yourself up
for each imagined inadequacy.

Allow the dialogue within the mind
to grow friendlier, and quiet.

Shift out of inner criticism and life
suddenly looks very different.

I can say this only because I make
the choice a hundred times a day to release the voice that refuses to
acknowledge the real me.

What’s needed here isn’t more prodding toward perfection, but
intimacy – seeing clearly, and embracing what I see.

Love, not judgment, sows the
seeds of tranquility and change.

Danna Faulds from “One Soul”

The last line will be with me all day 🙂