I hope you enjoy this inspiring re-post today.
The 4 A’s for fulfillment are some basic needs that we all have as human beings. I like to think of them as essential elements for the wellspring of life.
~ Attention ~
~ Appreciation ~
~ Affection ~
~ Acceptance ~
Take a moment to reflect on how you feel when someone offers you these things:
When someone pays attention to you, listens and is truly present with you…
When you feel appreciated for who you are, and someone thanks you…
When you are given affection and feel loved…
When you are accepted for just the way you are, despite not being perfect…
I know of a parent who intentionally punished their child by withdrawing her attention and ignoring her. She stone walled and turned her back in order to show her displeasure if the child didn’t do as she was told.
Can you imagine how this child felt, being rejected like this? Its no surprise that as an adult, her life became totally absorbed with filling the void within her. She craved attention and desperately needed to be appreciated. She was hungry for signs of affection, and yearned to be accepted by others.
Knowing the 4 A’s for fulfillment can help us understand our own motivations and support our healing from times in the past when these essential needs were not met. When we were small, we didn’t have the ability or insight to know what was happening, but we deeply felt the consequences.
Now it can be a gift to ourselves, to become more kind and compassionate to the small wounded child within us.
It can also be a powerful gift for us to give to others. It builds relationships and connection. It makes people feel good about themselves.
Notice if you find this difficult, neutral or easy.
If it’s difficult for you to give to others, then it might reflect your own need to give more to yourself. Fill your own wellspring so you can share with others.