This is a re-blog of a post that is a handy reference on human needs – and how important they are to ensure that we get them met. As we continue through these difficult times, more and more stress and distress will impact us all. May we all get our needs met and Find our Middle Ground.
Every human being has needs. It is part of the human condition. We were born with them and will go through most of our lives trying to get them met. When our needs are met we can fully access our humanity. Bringing compassion and kindness to ourselves and others.
Over the years as a life coach, I took several courses in Non Violent Communication. In NVC, needs are acknowledged and embraced. There is a vulnerable beauty behind our needs. The essence of who we are as human beings.
There are three groups of core needs that once we identify, we can honor: WELL BEING – SELF EXPRESSION – CONNECTION. Needs get a bad wrap…. but they shouldn’t. The more we recognize them, the more we can evolve and grow as human beings.
We often aren’t aware of our own needs, and it can be a powerful self-discovery to identify the ones that are most important to each of us. The needs below are grouped into the three categories. Pause for a moment and identify what needs resonate with you personally:
Health and Sustenance
Safety and Security
Celebration of life
Here is a self inquiry exercise to explore your needs more. Take a moment and ask yourself:
What am I grateful for?…
What needs are being met when I feel grateful?…
Now think of a time when you were upset, possibly at work or with a family member…
What needs were not being met?…
In all likelihood it would be about recognition, respect and a sense of belonging.
Needs drive us and are essential for our well being. When our needs are being met it opens the door to be in connection with ourselves and with others.
We come to see there is no need to judge ourselves or others any more.
We are more able to center ourselves in our Middle Ground and handle the the highs and lows of life.