“It may look as if the situation is creating the suffering, but ultimately this is not so – your resistance is.” ~ Eckhart Tolle
Wow – these are powerful words to read in a time of pandemic, when so many of us are desperately trying to come to terms with living in a fearful changing place filled with the unknown.
We are all human beings with ego-minds that are ready to resist whatever we see as a threat. Our minds can deny and duck… push back and dismiss… defend or withdraw… lash out and blame… whine and complain… in order to avoid feeling the pain of being out of control and feeling the fear.
If you are thinking “It will pass and its not a big deal” then please re-read the last paragraph.
Seriously. This is the new reality. One of external threats and being out of control.
We are waking up to a new reality where we no longer believe that we are controllers of our small world. We are realizing that we are part of the bigger world, and it’s darn scary.
This transition time is hard. If we are to survive and thrive, we must change the way we see things along with our behaviors.
We must get with the new program!
Noticing our resistance to what is happening is a very good place to start.
It’s time to waken up and become a witness to our unsettling thoughts, our conditioned responses and the incredible attachment to our routine and habits. What we have taken for granted may no longer be part of this new reality. What we think we have had control of, is simply a mirage.
This is a time to pause and reflect. To find our middle ground. Bring awareness inwards and notice everything that is coming up insight of you.
It’s not a comfortable place to be, and if you are not ready you may find yourself defaulting to distractions and ways to medicate yourself and dull the feelings. If you notice this, good for you! You are developing your ability to stand back and be the witness.
Here are some questions to ask, and to take time to journal on:
- “What is it that I am not accepting?”
- “What am I resisting?”
- “What can I do that is in my control?”
- “What do I have to let go of?”
- “What can I do differently here?”
- “How can I take care of myself and others?”
- “How can I contribute to the change for good?”
Be kind to this awakening part of you.
When we are able to accept what is, without judgment and blame, then we can open our hearts and minds to a new way of connecting to the bigger world.
Already I am seeing the generosity and compassion of others. The ability to give freely to those who need it the most. Unconditional loving of humanity and our true nature.
We can all do this when we go beyond fear and find our middle ground.