Inspiration – Joy

Inspiration is always worth repeating and sharing. I hope you enjoy this one.


“Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are”. ~ Marianne Williamson

autumn sunshineWe humans have a built in default of negative thinking. Its part of our survival mechanism that the ego has reenforced ever since we were little. As we grew up we became alert to scarcity and threats.

So for many of us, it feels natural to go around looking for what is wrong and criticizing things, other people …  and of course, ourselves. We may not even be aware of it.

Negativity feels acceptable and normal. Being safe becomes our preferred state. Even when it makes us miserable. After all “better the devil you know … ”

When we are in this state, the idea of positive thinking is likely to be rejected as ridiculous and fake. Remember, this inner critic is our ego wanting to protect that ways things are.  If we were to be more positive and less fearful, it would lose its power over our thinking and behavior.

Yet, neuroscience shows us that we can change our thinking by reenforcing new neural circuits in the brain. With practice, our brains are able to grow and change.
We are not hard wired in our thinking but we can be hard headed.

Here are some ideas to inspire you into shifting your thinking and creating new neural pathways:

  • Instead of looking for what’s wrong. Look for what’s right. For example, write a post it note and keep it with you all day as a reminder. Or catch one of your children or an employee doing something right.
  • Take time to look at something ordinary as something to be grateful for. For example, sitting at the table with your family tonight. Or watching the sun shine through the leaves.
  • Before going to sleep reflect on 3 things that you are grateful for.
  • Keep an achievement journal. Write down everything that you accomplish, including the small stuff. We usually filter out our strengths and accomplishments and focus on our losses and weakness. Balance out your thinking by writing down the good times. You will be surprised.

Recognizing these moments will start to transform your neural pathways into ones that recognize how good things really are.

This is where joy lives.

21 thoughts on “Inspiration – Joy

  1. It is an amazing thing to hear when people meet another culture and they find them very nice, polite and just fun to be around compared to ‘our own’. And I personally find that when a society is allowed to be a part of their country’s decision making, their is more respect, of themselves as well as others, and more belief in their journey. They are happier, more at ease and most certainly more ‘alive’.
    At the moment those cultures are very far and few between, usually islander nations simply because the western culture built on those ‘attitudes’ have not permeated too heavily.
    Time for a rebuild Val, as you now do. Loving and believing in ourselves is the most powerful way of removing what went before.
    A question if I may…what ‘culture’ will we now become or for that matter…do we need a label? ❀️

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  2. I needed to hear this today. Had one phone conversation today which made me upset. I find myself thinking about it constantly and getting more upset, although few good moments I had during the day, which brought me joy, I am not thinking about those moments at all. Your post made me conscious of this vicious circle I created for myself.

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  3. Great post and so on target. We do look naturally to the negative. I write in my gratitude journal every night and in my journal, I list what I’ve accomplished during the day. It helps me feel like I’m not the slug I sometimes think I am. πŸ˜‰

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