When you find yourself judging, blaming, criticizing, resenting, or being frustrated and annoyed with an other person … here are some phrases to bring to mind.
“This person in front of me has a body and a mind… Just like me.
This person in front of me has feelings, emotions and thoughts… Just like me.
This person in front of me has in his or her life, experienced physical and emotional pain and suffering… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be free from pain and suffering… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be healthy and loved… Just like me.
This person in front of me wishes to be happy… Just like me.”*
All people have similar needs, wants and desires. Fundamentally we act in order to protect ourselves and what we believe matters to us.
We all wish to be happy.
Others may go about it differently, to what we would want for ourselves.
Yet who are we to judge…. Our thoughts tell us that our way is the right way, but that is the small ego mind trying to stay in charge.
When we remind ourselves, that other people are just like us, we can pause and come from understanding instead of a righteous ego.
May we all find more acceptance and understanding in challenging times with difficult people.
Namaste
* Taken from Search Inside Yourself by Chade-Meng Tan
Find Your Middle Ground 
Evaluating another’s exterior based upon my biased perception is seldom accurate
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Agreed Vapor 💛 Our biases and beliefs prevent us from seeing clearly. Thank you.
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Reblogged this on Babytopaz and commented:
Thank you for sharing! Something to keep in mind.
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Thank you for the re-blog BabyT 💛
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This is so true. It’s easy for us to give ourselves the benefit of the doubt and make excuses for our actions, but we are so seldom willing to do the same for others. Great post, very insightful. Thanks for sharing.
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Glad you enjoyed this perspective Alexander 💛
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It was a good share! Can’t help but reblogged to my post to serve as a constant reminder to myself. If more people read and practice this, the world will definitely become a better place. =)
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Thank you 💛🙏💛
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True and well said!
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Thank you ❣️
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Good points, Val. Compassion goes a long way in smoothing out the wrinkles in relationships!
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It’s a must! Thank you Nancy 💕
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A great way to identify, not compare.
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Yes – letting go if judgment and comparison opens us to empathy and kindness. Thank you Sheilagh 💕
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We all just need to show a bit more kindness in our lives, especially now in such a negative time period.
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I agree. More kindness brings more and more. Thank you 💛
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Good sentiment.
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Well, this is all well and good unless you see this person considering their needs above others who they have brought into the world. Judgement is not all bad. It just is. Especially when the young and vulnerable are at parents’ hands who care more about themselves than their offspring.
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It is so sad when a parent is incapable of loving unconditionally. It took me a long time to let go of my own anger and forgive my mother for being a narcassist. She did as good a job as she was able. I am grateful to be here.
I am gratefu that you are here Jan 💕
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I so agree and well said.
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Thank you Marlene💛 I haven’t seen you for a while, I must pop over!
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Summer makes it harder to keep up with inside reading and I have other pressing issues that must be addressed so I’m quite far behind. Making an effort to catch up. 🙂
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I feel this method of ‘mirroring’ is an effective way of building true patience with not only other people but with yourself as well.
Good read!
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Thank you for joining in this conversation H 💛
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Beautiful Val. Namaste 🙏🏻💕
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Thank you Karen 💛🙏💛
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Beautiful Val. A great reminder to us to think of others’ as ‘just like us’. Thank you.
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So glad you enjoyed this Anita 💛
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Beautifully written. Thank you.
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Thank you for your kind words. 💛
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Well said and i suppose a lesson we all need all the time!
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Oh yes – it’s a reminder for me as well!
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So true, just the reminder i needed. Thank you
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Thank you Caroline 💛
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Great reminders. I have often reminded myself during interactions that ‘they’ are seeing things from an entirely different perspective, but with feelings that I would likely understand if I had the insight to them.
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Thank you Colleen 💛 . Seeing from an others perspective and realizing we have the same yearnings and feelings is powerful..
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Beautiful reminder, Val. It made me think of the human chain recently formed by eighty strangers to save some swimmers caught in a rip current.
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That is such a powerful story of what we can accomplish when we come together with compassion for others. Thank you for sharing Jill 💕
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This person in front of me is a fabulous writer, teacher, and human being. Much gratitude to you, Val. ❤
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Just like you. 💝 thank you for being you ❣️
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I so love that process. It always reminds me — we are more the same than different — and in our differences we experience the same feelings.
What a great way to grow compassion.
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Thank you Louise 💛 We are different, unique and yet the same when we look within. xo
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Fabulous
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Thank you Amy 💛
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Wise words…we’re all just trying to find happiness, even if we go about it differently. Our way is not the only way.
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Beautifully said Ann. Thank you 💛
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Just like me… an excellent means of reframing our reference points. Thanks Val.
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Thank you Gabe 💛
FYI – It’s based on a Buddist Metta (Loving kindness) meditation
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“…who are we to judge…” We need to ask that more often
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Yes Dan. We do. 💕
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Very beautiful, Val; Karuṇā, as the Buddhists call it. H ❤
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It is a powerful practice. Thank you Hariod 💛🙏💛
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This is wonderful, Val. We all need to practice acceptance and understanding. It’s just too easy to judge, but it’s not right to do.
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Thank you Michele💛 Its so nice to see your smiling adult face too ❣️
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wonderful!
i’m always when
they’re smiling
just like me 🙂
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Gratitude and love to you David 💛
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so tender and beautiful…have a joyful week Val 😀
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Thank you Hedy. May you also have a week filled with joy 💛
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So many excellent reminders here Val, and we need to remember that these annoying people are put in our paths to bring us a message. So many times I find they bring us to question and look deeper at ourselves..
And I know I have lots of annoying habits xxx 🙂
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Aahh… yes Sue. These people reflect something within ourselves that we are not aware of or have denied.
Thank you for stopping by. This is such a busy time in the garden, and relaxing in the sun!
Have a wonderful weekend my friend 💕
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Thank you Val… yes, lots do do right now garden wise. Plus my knitting project.. Nature has called me even deeper this year.. 🙂 ❤
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Thanks for sharing!
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Glad you appreciated it 💛
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This was a great post with a lot of wisdom! I just started my blog and it has been a great experience. I just started following your blog and I look forward to reading more of your posts!
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Thank you Alyssa for your gracious comment 💛
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