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* Are you a Giver or a Taker?

by Val Boyko
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Many of us when asked are we givers or takers, will answer “Oh yes, I am a giver”. But is it really so, or is it our ego that wants to believe it to be so…

Are you bringing your gifts to the world or are you looking for what you can get from the world?

woman holding the world

This question opens up a huge difference in perspective as well as in our attitude and how we show up.

One comes from a place of openness, abundance and sharing, while the other comes from a place of tension, lack and self absorption. The energy is so different … and it is palpable.

All around us are people asking “What’s in it for me”? …
… When the real questions are  “What can I bring to them?” “What are my talents and skills that I can offer?” “How can I share what I love to do?”

This thought came to my mind today as I recall when I was a new yoga teacher, how my attitude was that I needed to make a certain amount of money from my classes, or it wouldn’t be worthwhile.

Worthwhile to whom? To me of course… and my ego.

I had forgotten that I chose to teach because I love yoga and being a teacher. It is something I believe in and want to share with others. Its my gift to the world and my dharma or life purpose.
Whether I bring this to 4 people or 15, I impact them.

Real worth is measured by how much we express our unique selves, and how we can make a difference in the world.

So, whether you are wanting to teach a class, thinking about a career change or making a decision in your life, shift your perspective and questions! Let go of the fear of not having enough and open your heart to the abundance that is within you.

Experience the difference … and the results.

 

39 comments on “* Are you a Giver or a Taker?”

  1. Ann Koplow
    November 9, 2015

    I take a lot from what you give, Val!

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  2. Hariod Brawn
    November 9, 2015

    If I come to your yoga class do I have to share my chocolate? 😮

    I’m not coming. Neither is Nancy.

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  3. lorriebowden
    November 9, 2015

    I love the introspection and the shift of perspective, Val. I am faced with the need to make a big decision in my life…and the overriding emotion I feel about it is fear. I know that I must change this perspective if I am to actually “make” a decision. And I must make one soon as this limbo is the energy I want to be in. Much love to you…and thank you! ♡

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    • Val Boyko
      November 9, 2015

      Thank you Lorrie. When we shift our inner thinking … especially moving from the mind to the heart, we can see new openings and possibilities. Having a vision of how the future might look and embracing it with all your heart helps to quieten the fear and move us towards it. Sending you a ((hug)) my friend. xo

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  4. Paul Handover
    November 9, 2015

    Everything in our lives, nay in the world, comes down to relationships, and the foundation stone for those relationships is the one we have with ourselves. Just my two pennies worth!

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  5. KM Huber
    November 9, 2015

    Love this: “Let go of the fear of not having enough.” Great post, Val, as always.
    Karen

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  6. Jill Weatherholt
    November 9, 2015

    “One comes from a place of openness, abundance and sharing, while the other comes from a place of tension, lack and self absorption. The energy is so different … and it is palpable.” This is so true, Val. Excellent words of wisdom today.

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  7. nrhatch
    November 9, 2015

    Good points, Val.

    During a show promo the other day, a newlywed insisted that she NEEDED her husband to BE the way she wanted him to be. She was focused on what she wanted to GET from the relationship, rather than on what she could BRING to the relationship. Instead of GIVING him the gift of understanding and acceptance, she DEMANDED that he give her what her misguided thoughts told her she NEEDED.

    I GIVE the relationship 6 months. :mrgreen:

    That said, at times, we “take” so we have something to “give” later. It’s all about the balance of Yin ~> Yang ~> Yin ~> Yang.

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    • Val Boyko
      November 9, 2015

      Oh dear for that relationship! I recall someone telling me that shifting from thinking “What I want from them” to “What I want for them” was one of the more powerful shift to make in any relationship.
      Like Yin and Yang, life is all about give and take – with every interaction and every breath. It all part of the same continuum and not opposite at all.

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  8. Sue Dreamwalker
    November 9, 2015

    Wonderful reminders of how our inner dialogue works.. and how we should retrain our thinking.. That is why I loved Wayne Dyer so much.. he taught similar principles .. Thank you Val for teaching US..
    I so value your posts and thoughts..
    Blessings Sue

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  9. Tiny
    November 9, 2015

    Wise words Val! And I try to live by them…but in my “bread winning” work, I sometimes struggle with issues like “worth” and “equality” …very complex issues.

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  10. jglennon
    November 9, 2015

    Great post, Val. I’ve learned, and continue to learn, so much from you!

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  11. socialbridge
    November 9, 2015

    Taking can so often be even more important than giving or, that’s how it seems to me.

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  13. Healing Grief
    November 9, 2015

    I will share my chocolate with you Val! These words of wisdom really do work. It’s simply a gift to know it and share it. 🙂

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  14. Minuscule Moments
    November 10, 2015

    Beautiful post Val we all need a dose of this to remind us to be generous and open.
    Kath

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  15. Maria F.
    November 10, 2015

    I like what you’re saying. The world is full of beautiful things, but “society” doesn’t owe anything to anyone. To go places ‘expecting’ things to be given to you is living in illusion. One has to learn how to give, no matter how awful one’s childhood was. It means more inner work, but it’s needed for survival.

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  16. Walking My Path: Mindful Wanderings in Nature
    November 10, 2015

    When people think ” what’s in it for me,” thinking of the planet, we lose our environment. Hopefully people will think of what we can give to Her more. Thank you Val. Wonderful post.

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  17. IreneDesign2011
    November 12, 2015

    Very wise post Val. I find it difficult with relationships where the involved are opposites. Maybe it is just me. I need to learn to take too, are so much better to give, I feel.

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