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*Mantra for Today – stepping out of our comfort zone

by Val Boyko
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This mantra is for when you find yourself holding back because you are taking on something new or stepping out of your comfort zone. You may be afraid of how you will be received, or how others will perceive you.

This is my “go to” mantra before having a difficult conversation, meeting new people, or stepping out into the unknown.

Instead of reacting to the fear by withdrawing or becoming tense and protective, this reminds me to open up and embrace the situation instead. It is my favorite!

waiting for courage

Compassion 

then

Curiosity

and

Connection

overcome fear

Compassion for myself and others. Open my heart to our common humanity. We all get nervous when we face the unknown and stretch ourselves. We are all human beings looking for reassurance and safety.

Curiosity about others. What is important to them? What do they care about? We are unique and interesting human beings, and we all want to be acknowledged and accepted just the way we are.

Connection. We are all human beings looking for love and understanding. Within each of us is a divine spark that already connects us in spirit.

When the heart opens, and the mind lets go, fear disappears.

When we live from this place of love, there is no fear, only connection.

Namaste

35 comments on “*Mantra for Today – stepping out of our comfort zone”

  1. Kate @ Did That Just Happen?
    January 23, 2015

    Ugh. I’ve been fighting a cold, and it’s the Ladies Game Night tonight, all the ladies from the church get together and play games, and the last one I went to was a hoot, but I was just sitting here thinking how I didn’t want to go, I don’t know many people, I’d have to drive, and listing all of the reasons not to attend, when really, I’m just shy and it’s a struggle to get me to go anywhere.. and then YOU POST THIS!!
    I’m going, I’m going!!
    Seriously, Namaste Val.

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  2. socialbridge
    January 23, 2015

    Connects so well with my Stepping Out theme for this year, Val. Well said.

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  3. Hariod Brawn
    January 23, 2015

    This is very sound advice Val, for which many thanks. Your 3C formulation encapsulates an approach I take in a less structured way. It even works when dealing with psychopaths and misanthropists – I am serious.

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    • Val Boyko
      January 23, 2015

      I believe you Hariod! I like to hone in on the key elements so I can remind myself easily in the moment. There is much experience and research behind this simple formula that makes it powerful in practice.
      Thank you for your kind and insightful comments as always H ❤

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  4. suzicate
    January 23, 2015

    When we live from this place of love, there is no fear, only connection. -Exactly ❤

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  5. Ann Koplow
    January 23, 2015

    This blog space is one of my comfort zones, Val. So I guess I’ll have to step out of it, now! Before I do, many thanks.

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  6. Healing Grief
    January 23, 2015

    Great post Val, love the 3 C’s! They speak volumes to me. 🙂

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  7. nrhatch
    January 23, 2015

    Good thoughts, Val. When we focus on what’s going on around us, it’s hard to remain self-conscious.

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    • Val Boyko
      January 23, 2015

      Interesting how the meaning of words “self conscious” can be interpreted 1. being conscious of ourselves in relationship to others … and 2. connecting to our inner consciousness.
      I had to take a double take there Nancy 🙂

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  8. dianasschwenk
    January 23, 2015

    Really, really, really, really, really LOVE this Val! ❤
    Diana xo

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  9. Tiny
    January 23, 2015

    A great mantra! The three C’s could lead us into a new direction in service to others – that’s what comes to mind. Have a wonderful weekend, Val!

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  10. Paul Handover
    January 24, 2015

    Very moved. Your message should be read every day.

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    • Val Boyko
      January 24, 2015

      Thank you Paul. I do read it every day … along with my other mantras. They are on a white board in front of me in my home office. 🙂

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  11. smilecalm
    January 24, 2015

    but
    it’s so nice
    here in bed 🙂

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  12. Jewels
    January 24, 2015

    I feel like I always comment the same thing, but… this is so good Val! x

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  14. Ian Munro @ leadingessentially.com
    January 24, 2015

    The mantra is inspiring Val. It is so important to be able to operate smoothly outside our comfort zone. That is where all learning occurs.

    If I may be so bold, I might add one more word to your list of words starting with “C”. Confidence. Confidence that our comfort zone is the home of all we have previously learned and mastered. A great inventory of skills lives there, some of which have been our “go to” means of staying safe and even thriving. To know they are there gives us confidence to venture off the proven path and navigate through new challenges.

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